In further comment of this question, I think that there are always warning signs. Maybe she as a mother could have been more proactive in talking with him and maybe getting him some help. But denial is a powerful drug and she may have just thought, "This is a phase. He will grow out of it." I do not blame her for his actions and choices, but I think that she could have been more proactive in his life. I was a mischievious teenager and my parents did everything right. Sometimes no matter what you do, people will make their own decisions whether they be right or wrong.

While it is hard to say the mother alone is responsible she is responsible for knowing where her child is, even when they are teenagers, who their friends are and CERTAINLY making sure they do not have access to weapons!!!

I have to wonder, what would Susan's critics have done differently? How can they be so sure they would have recognized any symptoms? How many of you can say for certain that you know what your child or grandchild is doing at any given moment?

How I wish she could have peace and rest from this terrible tragedy. Even more how I wish there were more compassion for the Klybo and Harris families.

A MOMENT OF INGRATITUDE

TODAY SHOW DECLARES ONE PARENT RULE!

CONGRATULATIONS TODAY SHOW FOR THE MOST SEXIST HOUR OF TELEVISION PROGRAMING EVER.

And thanks to Natalie Morales for leading the charge as moms talk about parenting problems, as moms talk about taking time outs, as Parents who are moms talking about mom problems which are parenting problems. You poor poor things.

Let me remind you and your viewers that each child has or had TWO PARENTS until you lovely and malicious moms changed that to one. A single parent is a mom. A parent is a mom. A mom is a parent. Mommy and me, Today Moms hold on two your separate bank accounts so you can pay your cut-throat attorney to keep your children/'s fathers out of their lives.

When you infuse your dreams into your children, there is no more room for their own. Our schools are training camps for the ONE SEX SOCIETY, where girls are girls and boys are girls. Where every hero is a heroine, the free press is the female press, with a daddy boiling in every pot, every woman is a King and free pink underwear for all

I feel like we can only raise our kids the best that we can and hope that we are doing a good enough job. Any child that attends a public school is not only influenced by parents growing up. There are teachers, peers, counselors, principals among others. Parents can not be with their children every minute of the day but they can stay involved and ask questions to get to know what goes on with the child on a daily basis.

We can all sit back and judge or we can try to figure out what she missed or how she missed it. This way none of us will hopefully end up in her shoes one day - There but for the grace of God go I.

Where was his father in all this? During adolescence boys draw away from their mother (close as they may still in some ways be) to discover their identity as men. They will find role models from the men in their environment, be it their father,and/or an other supportive adult male or their male friend or friends. Even the best Mom can't be Dad as well.

where was dad in all of this? he too should bear half the blame.

I was immediately ready to condemn the parents of both boys. But teenagers will always find a way to do something if they really want to do it. I believe his parents tried to help him with his depression but he did not seem to want the help. This is just an unforgettable tragedy where we can probably find nobody to blame, or everybody, depending on how you look at the roles of many people, not just the parents. The book Columbine really gave a lot of information that most of us probably never knew.

Why would someone blame her for what her son did. People tend to forget they were once teenagers and hid nearly everything they didn't want their parents to know from them, because you knew they would not approve. Susan is hurting enough and for some of you to blame her and say she should have known, you are an idiot. Susan please forgive yourself, it wasn;t your fault, move on and ignore the idiots.

Look, no one will agree 100% with the way they were raised, but I have to admit that my parents did a decent job with me. Like any other teenager I bent the rules when I could, and broke some when I thought I could get away with it. Testing boundaries is normal. But my parents usually had a pretty good idea of how my life was going, and they were there every day, and could tell when I was feeling bad or angry about something and would try to talk to me about it.

But when a parent is absent from their child's life long enough for hatred to fester, plans to be made, guns and ammunition stockpiled and loaded, and a massacre to be carried out I have to ask. Just where you while all this was going on? I can not imagine that any parent who made an honest to God attempt to be an integral part of their child's life would miss the clues that must have been there.

It seems funny to me that everyone keeps stressing that this was a "cubscout tool". As a mom of 2 cubscouts I can tell you the cubscouts cant even earn their wittling chip to carry a knife until they are in the 3rd grade and then they are only allowed to carry them at camp. A 6 year old cubscout would never be allowed to carry a knife. It obvious the adults in this situation have failed the child and they should be the ones punished not the child. Children only know what they are taught. With this boy breaking a school and a cubscout rule, he has obviously been failed by numerous people.

sorry the site posted my reply on the wrong chat.

I could NEVER have had a stockpile of weapons..my mom was the enforser...I was no angel...drugs...drink a bit...theres sneeky....and theres ridiculous, ANY mom that doesnt see parts or clues or items tied to the massacre....is a CLUELESS ABSENTEE MOTHER and deserves to share the blame....if you choose to have intercourse, get preg. and keep kid....you are bound for LIFE to that child, and while he/she is young, its your duty to be vigilant to raise and instill MORAL values...of at least life and death, and how to treat others... closing your eyes to developmental problems with your kid, may be easier and make you look like a good parent with no problems...BUT neglect can bring on a NIGHTMARE down the road...as a kid...or as an adult...either way....its the parents fault...its your duty...if you cant take on a full time parenting job where you never give up....DONT HAVE KIDS!!!! If my kid was killed by hers...id call her and mail her letters reminding her how bad of a mom she was...and because of her my kids dead....every day of every year.... all you BAD parents out there...the ones who spent more time on their "myspace" "facebook" pages than they do with their own kids...Im talking to you!!! Clean your houses...look through stuff...ITS YOUR DUTY...TO ME TO THE NEIGHBORHOOD, TO THE TOWN. Kids do not have "rights" till they are on their own...thats what we were told...I had no rights while under their roof and every square foot of the house including my room...was theirs...and they owned it and could go through it. And today... Im glad they were tuff...back then...not so much....but the time to "befriend" your kids...isnt till they are ALSO adults, and you can have an adult friendship then....as a teen, its far from the time.

Who could predict that the incident would happen? Even the parents of the two boys had never foreseen that it would happen. A lot of people have been waiting for something like the Susan Klebold essay. It has been getting good response from the readers, particularly parents. The Susan Klebold essay will run in O Magazine, and though this is the first statement of any kind that she's made about the incident, other than in court, which is sealed, she won't be going on Oprah's TV show, or making any other appearances or statements. With that little follow up on the Susan Klebold essay it looks like she isn't doing this because she needs money.

Being a parent myself and knowing how I was as a teen, I know my parents didn't know everything I did. No, you can't keep your eye on them 24-7, but you do the best you can. This was a horrible thing that happened. I know all these years later it still brings up terrible memories for everyone, but the parents can't be held responsible for the child's behavior in this case. They would have found a way to do something like this no matter what anyone said or did in my opinion. They wanted it that bad. That's just the way it was folks! Like it or not.