Should stay-at-home moms receive tax credit for the jobs they do?

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Should stay-at-home moms receive tax credit for the jobs they do?

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    Yes.
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    No.
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    I'm not sure.
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Yes.

ABSOLUTELY. I was a stay at home mom after the death of my husband. 4 kids,and all the house work fell on my shoulders. No days off.

  • 2 votes
 - 3:24 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
Yes.

ABSOLUTELY. I was a stay at home mom after the death of my husband. 4 kids,and all the house work fell on my shoulders. No days off.

  • 3 votes
 - 3:25 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
Yes.

Yes, please! I dont think that it would ever happen, but how nice would it be to actually get paid for the work you do??!!

  • 3 votes
 - 9:12 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
Yes.

I say "Hell Yah!!!" She works as hard as and full time worker, and she has a much deeper vested interest in the development of her children

  • 5 votes
 - 9:32 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
No.

I'm a stay at home Mom and because I'm not putting money into the system I don't feel I should get a tax credit. It'd be nice though. :)

  • 3 votes
 - 10:29 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
Yes.

Being a stay at home mom or dad is a real job just ask anyone whom has done it. They should be reconized in a postive way.

  • 4 votes
 - 10:34 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
Yes.

Each year it is totaled up how much moms should make... but we never get it. I doubt we will ever get one but if we did it would be amazing

  • 3 votes
 - 11:09 am EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
I'm not sure.

Although it sounds appealing, I don't know...

     - 2:20 pm EDT on Tue Oct 20, 2009
    No.

    What? Seriously? Why do I deserve a tax credit for staying home?? What an absurd question.

    • 2 votes
     - 10:19 am EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
    I'm not sure.

    Now that I'm a SAHM I wish that they did, though!

       - 12:11 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      Tax credit is for a person who earns money. I don't like earned income credit either. No wonder our country is so far in debt.

      • 1 vote
       - 1:18 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      I stayed at home for 7 years after the birth of our son. No, I don't think we should have received a tax credit.

      • 2 votes
       - amfh
       - 1:18 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      Yes.

      Absolutely, moms job never ends. It is very demanding. It is by far one of the toughest jobs. They should get a salary as well.

      • 2 votes
       - 1:25 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      I'm not sure.

      I guess there's no such thing as a stay-at-home-Dad according to the author. How can Shriver discuss equality then be blatantly sexist

      • 1 vote
       - 1:59 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      Yes.

      My wife works harder at home with the kids then I do at work, and it's 24/7. No days off, and not paid vacation.

      • 2 votes
       - 2:01 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      Its not employment its a RESPONSIBILITY

      • 2 votes
       - 2:04 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      Tax credits do not apply to jobs that do not pay taxes. This is a voluntary situation.

      • 2 votes
       - 2:35 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      NO. If they get payed then tax them. If spouse pays them he can charge, rent food, car rental, utilities, clothes, entertainment, gas ins

      • 1 vote
       - 2:51 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      Yes.

      ...and homeschoolers should too!

      • 2 votes
       - 3:08 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      H*** NO! Tax credits come at someone else's expense. I'm female, EARN a living, & I'm supposed to hand over my hard-earned $s to housewives

      • 2 votes
       - 3:16 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      What?! Sure, and I want a credit for dogwalking, and charity time, and reading to my kids, and how about xtra for the step-kids? too nuts!

      • 2 votes
       - 3:19 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      Yes.

      It would be a statement for children. They were healthier & happier when Moms were at home. Base it only on home or not, not # of kids.

      • 2 votes
       - hoko
       - 3:45 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      Sounds like a great idea, but as a stay at home mom I do not have any income to credit the tax against?

      • 1 vote
       - 3:48 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
      No.

      Mother's should be given every break possible, including taxes, if they produce well-adjusted, productive children. Otherwise, no!

         - 4:08 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009
        Yes.

        Absolutely, it's 24/7moms job never ends and homeschoolers should too!

        • 1 vote
         - 4:48 pm EDT on Wed Oct 21, 2009

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        After burying my Father this past May upon return to work I learned that my position as Registered Dietitian had been cut. Since we live on a remote island (Kwajalein) and there are very few job opportunities for spouses here, I am a Home Organizing Engineer (at home Mom). Unfortunately, I was not able to receive unemployment when I moved here a year ago (even though we're living on American leased soil). Consequently, I strongly believe that a tax credit would definitely help.

        P.S. I forgot that I do work five hours per week at the local newspaper (making 1/4 what I should).

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        Reply#1 - Tue Oct 20, 2009 8:23 AM EDT

        Love the title "Home Organizing Engineer"!! I wear that hat everyday as well as tutor, cook, psychologist (dealing with the temper tantrums) and many, many others! And with no paid time off or sick days, I think that a tax credit would definitely be useful!

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        #1.1 - Tue Oct 20, 2009 9:16 AM EDT

        Stupid Title. Why can't you just be happy with the title of MOM --doesn't work outside the home. That's what I was until my husband died and i had to go back to work. It was my joy, my privelege to be there with my kids.

        It also made me tear my hair out at times, made me need long walks with my girlfriends or my husband, but I loved every minute of everyday. And my kids are the beautiful strong, confident, elegant, talented, loving, wonderful children that they are today, because my husband and I gave them that time with me at home.

        • 1 vote
        #1.2 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:24 PM EDT
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        I'd rather see the tax money go to health coverage and education for needy children. We "SAHMs" do work incredibly hard at pouring ourselves into raising responsible, happy, and successful children, but I would rather have that money used to care for children who don't have the benefits that my kids have.

        • 2 votes
        Reply#2 - Tue Oct 20, 2009 10:58 PM EDT

        That is an awesome statement!! I can tell just by your post that you must be a beautiful person. Very aware of the needs of others and caring. Pass that on to your children and you have won the Nobel Peace Prize in my book.

          #2.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:52 PM EDT
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          Just because women aren't in the workforce, doesn't mean they aren't contributing to society. I think families who have a SAHP should definitely get a tax break.

          • 3 votes
          Reply#3 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 12:13 PM EDT

          Studies show that a homemaker is equal to two full time jobs so why shouldn't they get credit for the work they do. If more couples had one that stayed home I think we would have better care given to our children. Hats off to anyone able to stay at home and be a full time parent, we need more of you.

            Reply#4 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 12:43 PM EDT

            A credit from WHOM?? Based on what taxes paid to WHAT?? All any of you are suggesting is another one of those Earned Income Credits which is nothing more than MY tax dollars being given to someone who doesn't make much money to give them a false sense of richness by increasing their refund.

            Many parents work this out by working seperate shifts, waiting until the kids are a little older, only working part-time, etc. And I would think that this past year especially would have convinced most people that there are a LOT of things that families can do without.

            • 1 vote
            #4.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:34 PM EDT

            First, being a working mom is also equal to two full time jobs--one of which actually generates income and, thus, taxes.

            Second, the phrase "studies show" should be banned. Studies can be found to support almost any conclusion. My "study"--conducted by watching a particular SAHM relative--shows that a stay-at-home mom whose kids are in school has a HECK of a lot more free time than I do! Why should the money I earn pay her to stay home?

              #4.2 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:28 PM EDT
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              Under no circumstances is this a good idea. Mother/Fatherhood has been around for tens of millennia, with no subsidy.

              Subsidizing mother/fatherhood? Who thought this would even be okay?

              Every family in the US can have a stay-home if they choose. The fact is that most choose the nice car and the big-screen TV, so they must have two incomes.

              Affluence is the disease, subsidies aren't the cure.

              As for single parent families, you know what, tough times equal tough people. Sometimes things suck, and that's it. My brother and I were raised by a tough single mother, who died at 38 years.

              Paying for the jobs people do at home? Ridiculous. I want pay for mowing the grass, picking up the trash, raking the leaves, changing my own oil, on and on and on. If you want the state to pay you for your children, you become owned by the state.

              • 2 votes
              Reply#5 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 12:43 PM EDT

              The sad thing (and the reality) of this economy is that many families in America aren't taking second jobs because they want the expensive life; they are taking second jobs (when available) so that they can have a life in general. Health care, child care, groceries, all the things that are required for a family to live well (not affluently, just well) require A LOT of money!

              My husband is a stay-at-home dad while I make, at best, $25,000 for the 3 of us. He is a HUGE penny pincher and I guarantee we are spending at least 80% of our income on bills, food, etc. We don't have cable, we rarely go out to eat or to movies... and I don't feel as though my situation is much different than the rest of America. But a second job (which is impossible to find at this point) or assistance for the parent staying at home would not only help our situation, but I think would create incentive for parents to stay at home and raise their children themselves rather than sending them to day care. Children are better off being raised by their own family, but it's just not that easy to do anymore.

              Also, have you seen the rate of deaths caused by Child Abuse & Neglect in the United States? It's ridiculous! I think a lot of kids would be better served by having their parents at home with them more often. I have a better idea of what my baby girl wants when I'm around her more. The less time I spend with her, the more frustrating I find the times when I am around her. Thank God for my stay-at-home husband. When he gets a job and she goes to day care, I only hope she's talking by then cause if she isn't, I don't know what we'll do!

                #5.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:05 PM EDT

                Adria, I have to ask you. Why would you have a child if you weren't ready (the two of you together to afford to raise her)? $25K/yr is not enough to support 3 people on in most places of the country.

                However, your man could go out in the evening and get a part-timer and add probably another 12K to your annual income right? That would give each of you some alone time with baby, and then some together time as well.

                • 1 vote
                #5.2 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:39 PM EDT

                He's tried... he has a summer job, but not during the winter. And during the winter I am at work during the day and in school during the night.

                Kids happen accidentally sometimes. It's not always a planned thing, but I love kids and wouldn't dream of giving her up even if it means living on a low income. I lived in a family of five - my mom was a legally blind waitress by night and my dad was a school teacher by day ($21,000 starting out)... I've been MUCH worse off than I am now. I wouldn't wish my childhood money situations on anyone, least of all my own kids, but we do the best we can. In a couple years I'll have a master's degree and a better job, and hopefully by then he'll be able to get a job too (and believe me, he's tried. No one is hiring around here). Until then, we're doing fine. I'm just saying that we do pay taxes... and although I see the side where "It's a voluntary situation" and "You shouldn't expect a tax credit for everything", if it was offered I would be very grateful.

                  #5.3 - Thu Oct 22, 2009 10:50 AM EDT
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                  I am not a stay at home mom but, I have friends who are. I think they should receive credit for the job they do. As far as thinking that if your not in the work force you don't put any money in the system, well, that is just nonsense. Raising children, especially in these times, is the most important job any of us do. If only we could go back to the Biblical times, thats what moms were supposed to do.

                    Reply#6 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:09 PM EDT

                    What a great idea! And FitProJeff no, every family cannot have a stay-home if they choose. Most moms have to work just to stay afloat!

                      Reply#7 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:10 PM EDT

                      How about us poor working moms who not only have to bring home a paycheck but at the end of the day, do everything the stay at home moms do but we don't have all day to do it. We deserve a tax break more than they do. Sour grapes maybe, but it is the truth. I only wish I had the luxery of being able to stay home all day, it sounds like heaven. Up by 6:00 a.m. and doing laundry at 11:30 p.m., no stay at home mom does that.

                      • 1 vote
                      Reply#8 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:37 PM EDT

                      Great post! WE deserve a tax credit just for being in the hell on earth that is known as the American 21st century workplace. I began my career in '91, and it's just gotten worse and worse and worse...and I have several decades to go!

                      As for women who no longer have husbands but are staying home w/ kids and not getting jobs - you must have had LOTS of life insurance - because if you don't, you need to re-educate yourself and get a JOB! Yes, you had it nice, but that life is OVER, unless you find a replacement husband who's also a sugar daddy! Harsh, I know, but TRUE.

                      • 1 vote
                      #8.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:19 PM EDT
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                      Renee-1422448 = You are joking right? You want to be paid a salary? Exactly who is going to pay this salary the poor working moms who don't have the luxery of staying home? Unbelievable that you feel so entitled.

                      • 1 vote
                      Reply#9 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:43 PM EDT

                      Stay at home and get a tax credit - for WHAT??? You created the kid so deal with it. Go to work and contribute to society honey. Raising kids is what you elected to do and neither I nor any tax payer should be giving you any breakj for that. I work and raise my kid and don't expect two tax breaks - good grief you all are a lazy bunch of give me give me's.

                      • 3 votes
                      Reply#10 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:45 PM EDT

                      Jan Black - I could not agree more. They have no idea what it is to "have" to work outside the house and then come home and do everything they have all day to do.

                      • 2 votes
                      #10.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 1:55 PM EDT

                      Excuse me, but for some of us stay at home isn't a choice. With the available jobs and pay rates, we'd lose money sending two children to day care add to that the clothes, gas and cooking differently and we'd be in the hole. Do you want me to work and get child care subsidy (From your tax dollars) so that our family ends up with less money?

                      I think what most of us stay @ home moms are trying to say is that it would be nice to get some tax credit, but we doubt that will ever happen.

                      And we are not lazy - we are the ones that help (for free) at the school, raise money for programs and volunteer our time for the benefit of others like you who "Work". Our contribution to society is large - How about yours?

                      • 1 vote
                      #10.2 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:07 PM EDT

                      I wish my "work" tasks were as fun and easy sounding as the make-busy examples you gave. I also wished I faced no consequences (demotion, getting fired) if I didn't do them well.

                      Yes, they're socially valuable - but you wouldn't have time or energy to be doing them if someone else wasn't carrying you financially. If you aren't earning you're way, you should be doing them.

                      And, some of us didn't go to college w/ the primary goal of getting a M.R.S. degree!

                      • 2 votes
                      #10.3 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:30 PM EDT

                      Yes, and while we're at it...let's take away the tax credit for child care. Them damn people created those babies and now want the government to help pay for child care? Give me a darn break! Pay for your own damn child care and your own damn babies.

                      My husband goes to work everyday contributing tax dollars to our government. He helps pay for your children to go to daycare while his children sit comfortably at home with me taking care of them. For free? No, but as a stay at home mom I get the label stuck on me that I exude sacrifice and that I should not ask for anything because it's my duty. If society keeps crapping on the people who mean well there will be no more people who will want to "mean well."

                      • 1 vote
                      #10.4 - Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:00 PM EDT
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                      Just because you are a working mom doesn't make all the responsibilities of being a mother/wife/house manager go away!!! I am a working mom, and I have to do everything the SAHMs do - but in less time! I have the same doctor appts to get to, the same laundry to finish, the same dinners to cook. If SAHMs get paid, then I should get paid for that time I spend being a mother as well.

                      • 2 votes
                      Reply#11 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:19 PM EDT

                      A child care tax credit is not a credit because you choose not to ask your husband for help. A child care tax credit is given to you because you choose to work outside the home and pay someone else to take care of your children for you while you work. That's your choice. Just as it is mine to stay at home. Yes, I don't bring home the bacon but my husband sure does. He pays taxes for our whole family and yes, he helps pay for you to get a credit for child care! How about we call it even if I don't have to help pay for your child care tax credit?

                        #11.1 - Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:06 PM EDT
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                        While I respect some parents' decision to have a parent stay at home with the children, I don't support a tax credit for doing so. As a stay at home mom, you're not having taxes taken out of a paycheck and put into the system. Additionally, you are already eligible for certain benefits and tax credits just for having children. Our economy can't handle yet another tax credit, without somehow putting money back in. Nothing against stay at home mothers OR fathers, it just doesn't really make sense, especially right now.

                        • 3 votes
                        Reply#12 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:38 PM EDT

                        momof2 - 142467 - no one said you are lazy you just have it much easier than working moms. Heck, if you get a credit for staying at home we should get double for working. As far as contributing to society, who do you think is paying the taxes for that nice school you volunteer at? Exactly how do you volunteer your time for the benefit of working moms? I don't get that one. If you can stay at home, that is great, congratulations but please don't think you are better or more entitled than working moms, you just have more money and think you are better. Hopefully, you never have to experience the stress of being a working mom.

                        • 4 votes
                        Reply#13 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:38 PM EDT

                        Every stay at home I know would not trade it for the world. Especially once the kids start school. If you are organized the kids are gone the house is cleaned the shopping done, your day is yours. I worked as a phone repair technician and let me tell you that I don't have any idea where all those overworked stay at homes are because most were by the pool, watching tv, gossiping with girlfriends or any of several other liesure type activities. Oh yeah they did studies to determine what salary would "homemaker" earn and they used numbers for a full time chauffer, chef,maid, etc... first are you really that good at everything you do, I doubt it. Tax Credit..NO WAY you made a choice, you will enjoy your chidren for a lifetime and they will be there for you in your elder years and you think tax payers owe you

                        • 3 votes
                        Reply#14 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:54 PM EDT

                        thanks for sharing the truth, even though it's not PC

                        • 2 votes
                        #14.1 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:31 PM EDT
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                        The truth is if parents (mother or father) received a tax credit for staying home to raise their own children then you would probably see more parents doing it. Our children need their parents. They do not need strangers who get paid to babysit them raising them. Studies have shown this is why alot of our children get involved with gangs. They feel abandoned by their parents and seek out others who are in the same boat.

                        I am 49 years old and was raised at a time when stay at home mothers were a given. Although my mother and I had a contentious relationship, I was glad she was home in the afternoon when my brothers and I got home from school. It was comforting. The rare occasion she was not home when we came home from school was scary. No one was home to ask us about our day, make sure we did our homework, etc.

                        To the women on this board who undermine a SAHM or SAHD then shame on you. These men and women are putting their children ahead of themselves. Just to let you know, some other developed nations pay 1) mothers to stay home and raise their own children, 2) maternity leave, etc. Not to say they are in better shape then we are here in the US but at least they acknowledge the need for children to be raised by the people who chose to give birth to them.

                          Reply#15 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:55 PM EDT

                          Amen! Nothing more to say...

                            #15.1 - Thu Oct 22, 2009 11:02 AM EDT

                            what?! you think because i have to go to work (my husband cannot support us..i can) that i do not put my children ahead of myself!?!? wow... and here i was, thinking that putting food on my table and a roof over our heads, paying my taxes properly, and STILL DOING ALL THAT A SAHM DOES - that i was putting my family first. if i got paid to stay home and raise my kids, i absolutly would, in a heartbeat. when we decided to have kids, my husband had a great job - now, he doesn't, but i do, and that is how it worked out for us - i hate it when i get dogged on for "not caring" about my kids because i work. i'm showing my daughter that women can do it all and be successful inside and outside the home ...and i'm showing my son the same thing (and hopefully he wont grow up as a man who thinks a woman's place is ALWAYS in the home).

                              #15.2 - Thu Oct 22, 2009 12:07 PM EDT
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                              explorerdog - I love it. Not all sahm's have it quite that easy but I will agree most do. Tennis, sitting by the pool, country club, watching The View, one can only dream..........

                              • 2 votes
                              Reply#16 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:02 PM EDT

                              I think if you give a tax credit to stay-at-home moms or dads then you should give it to any parent. The same amount of work has to be done to raise kids whether you have all day to do it at home or if you work outside of the home 8 hours a day and then try to accomplish all the same stuff in the few remaining hours you have during the evening and weekends. On top of that, working parents have the added expenses of daycare, gas, vehicle maintenance, etc. Yes, any "free" money for anyone would be great, however there is no free lunch. What one person receives from the government is taken away from somebody else. We already have too many tax credits for those who don't contribute to the tax base.

                              • 1 vote
                              Reply#17 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:41 PM EDT

                              For every tax credit or benefit the government legislates they must increase the taxes (rip off) all of the other taxpayers. The government doesen't give anything to anybody unless they unfairly take it from someone else. It's called income redisribution A/K/A theft. The tax system isn't voluntary. It's theft by extortion and threats.

                              Do we need government? YES! However, we also need a lot less government, less government interference in personal and business affairs and a fair system of taxation. If everyone paid a maximum of 15% of there income in total taxes without any deductions or exemptions It's likely that smaller more efficient federal state and local governments would have sufficient income to provide necessary services. Of course they would have to eliminate the waste and corruption used to provide special interest groups unfair advantage over the rest of the taxpayers. Our current batch of politicians who accept gifts or contributions from special interest groups and professional lobbyists are corrupt. They all belong in prison. Every taxpayer is a victim of this band of thieves. I blame the ignorant voters for re-electing people from politcal parties who benefit from this corrupt system that they designed and engineered to keep themselves in power and on the gravy train. Intelligent people would have put an end to this long ago.

                                Reply#18 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:44 PM EDT

                                I don't have kids, but I do my own housework; where's my tax credit? I'm already disproportionally soaked in taxes as a single person.

                                "It takes" a village was the dumbest thing Hillary ever said (and the cookie thing the best). Your kid, your responsibility, not this villager's.

                                • 2 votes
                                Reply#19 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:01 PM EDT

                                Unbelieveable! People want subsidies for breeding? If you want a tax credit, get a real job and actual pay income taxes. Families already receive huge tax credits just for having the little brats!

                                • 1 vote
                                Reply#20 - Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:02 PM EDT

                                They tried that, in NaziGermany. It was so good, that superior (blond, blue-eyed, aryan type) SS soldiers were given free breeding rights. Any woman that was thoughtcapable of producing acceptable children was expected to submit ... for the good of the state. Given a stipend and extra rations as assistance.

                                Eugenics was tried in the USA for a while too. It wasn't that long ago that many Southern states (and California) were finally convinced to remove statutes that permitted state sectionedsterilizations for the feeble minded or those otherwise found to be unsuitable for passing on genetic traits the state found undesirable.

                                GGAATTCCAA loved the movie, almost as much as COMA.

                                  #20.1 - Thu Oct 22, 2009 4:06 PM EDT
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