I am glad someone is finally asking about this because I have always, always, always wanted a girl for my first child and I am trying to get pregnant right now and I am actually scared of my reaction if the ultrasound tech, (we've decided to find out the gender before delivery), says that we're having a boy. I agree that we've been conditioned to say that we'd be happy with either gender despite how we truly feel because I'm now at the point where I probably would be grateful to finally be mom that I'd force myself to get excited over the prospect of having a boy but I know myself better. I know that despite the smile I will force myself to plaster onto my face that my heart will be breaking. Then immediately the thoughts will turn to--I don't plan on having a lot of children. What if I only ever have boys??? Obviously I don't believe being a mom to boys will be a bad thing. Of course not. But I just hope I can be equally happy if I never get to be a mom to a girl.

That's so sad...  I mean, I admit it would have been fun to have a girl and get to shop for frilly dresses and patent leather shoes, but I wouldn't trade my two sons for ANYTHING!  I have 2 nieces now that I can shop for as I choose, and I'm watching my sons grow into men that any woman would be lucky to have for a husband.  I can see thinking that one would be more fun or interesting or whatever, but to actually describe it as "heartbreak" because you didn't get what you wanted?  I would hope that's similar to a depression that can be treated before the child ever gets old enough to know how you feel. 

As a parent of one boy and one girl, this topic just makes me cringe. I did not find out the gender of my babies before they were born because it did not matter. The first time I saw my innocent babies, I thanked God for choosing me to be their mother. I know a few people that found out the gender of thier babies and cried for days, weeks and even months because they were not getting what they wanted. Then don't find out! You know going into a pregnancy that you have a 50/50 chance of getting one or the other. Don't get me wrong, I love having a little girl to dress up and she is also the most beautiful tom boy when she wants to be. Yes, I have the best of both worlds. So please, thank God for what He has given you.

When I was pregnant with my son, who will be 16 tomorrow, I was certain I was going to have a girl. When the ultrasound verified I was pregnant with a boy, as hard as I tried not to be, I was disappointed. But luckily I had a few months to warm up to the idea of having a son. By the time he arrived, I had my mind set to have a boy. Then when I got pregnant with my daughter, my husband couldn't stop crying when we found out we were having a daughter because he knew how much it meant to me. But I asked to schedule another ultrasound for a month later just to make sure before I got too excited. It was important to me to have a girl. I am proud of my son and love him more than I ever could have imagined; he has been the perfect son in every way possible. Neither of my children have turned out to be the stereotype I had in mind. I think it is a good idea for women to find out about the sex of their child before they arrive in the delivery room. It gets you in the right mind set so when your baby arrives the day is perfect.

i agree most people have an idea in their head of how many children they would like, gender etc but when you become fortunate enough to produce a child that YOU and your partner made together the idea of "disappointment" is DISAPPOINTING! to feel sad about not buying pink dresses shows how materialistic our world has become. be thankful for what you have and rather than being concerned about what color to paint the nursery, paint it green and try to raise a well adjusted and loved child!

We always wanted girls. Both of us. And our first child is a girl! We were so happy and excited. I must admit that when we found out the second was a boy, honestly we both felt shock and some disappointment. After a while, however, we got used to the idea. And really, when it comes down to it, your child is your child and you love them no matter what.

My oldest child was a boy & I really wanted a 2nd son, so they could be as close as my sister & I were growing up...so I thought! When my amnio revealed that I was having a girl, I was a bit disappointed. My sister had a boy & a girl & they are as close as siblings could be, so I figured I could parent whatever gd gave me. They have grown into the most wonderful young adults. Each with their own distinct style & personality. My husband & I are so lucky to have raised such great children!