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All the time :(
It's almost like if you have an opinion, there is always some other Mother there ready to slander you till you are two inches tall !
I think all women including myself have the green eyed monster ready and willing to rear its ugly head. Some Women more than others, I have stopped posting on Facebook, or saying anything to Sister-in-laws and especially my Mother-in-law because, they are especially enthusiastic about belittling me down to an inch tall. oh well... that is what I think
August
Clinton, Utah
Of course. Unfortunately, I have to admit to being slander-er too. Sometimes, in this land of free speech, we should keep our opinions to ourselves. :-)
I am part of a group of blogger mom's that have been together since we were in the early stages of our pregnancy. We all met on a website called I AM Pregnant.com We followed each other throughout our pregnancies, shared our birth stories as they happened, and continued to follow each other throughout their first year of life. We decided to form our own website. www.sarah.zeemer.com. aka "Our Mama's Hip" - We created the site for us to stay in our close group. Now our babies are 2 1/2 years old and we still chat every day! We've gone through happy and sad times together. A few of us have gotten together and met, but most have never met each other. We're scattered across the US, Canada and England. Because we discuss everything from our babies, to our marriages, housework, jobs, etc., there have been tense times in discussions, but we always find the good in each other. We find that we're all simply trying to be the best moms we can be! I would love to meet the ladies from our group someday. I know them so very intimately, without ever meeting in person. We've developed a sisterhood of motherhood. I cherish their virtual friendships more than any other I've ever known.
Of course, it happens. I am a huge supporter of Home Schooling (I was Home Schooled myself) and that ALWAYS makes people think your crazy. I've have been called everything in the book, I've even had people tell me that I'd be "emotionally abusing" my daughter if I dared to keep her out of the Public School System. I'm always sorry that in this land of so called "free speach" I'm considered the evil one for voicing my opnions reguarding something I find so important on so many levels.
We're going to home school our two children, too, and I was surprised, when I first told people my intentions, how rude, negatively (and usually incredibly ignorantly) judgmental, and lecturing people became! I'm finding out that this is probably going to be the normal stigma we're going to have to deal with in the next few years. I always find it interesting that so many people tend to assume the person they disagree with couldn't possibly have considered all the pros and cons of the decisions they're making with their kids.
I would love to see us all (myself included) make more of an effort to use kind words and less snap judgments in our discussions with each other.
Absolutely. I am the writer of a mommy blog, The Heir to Blair.
I began blogging about my struggle with Post Partum Depression & immediately received backlash for being selfish, callous, cold-hearted. Another person Tweeted to me, asking if I had thrown my son down the stairs yet, "since I could & all." I've been told via comments that I am devoid of human emotion & exposing my son to that for suffering from PPD.
It's an ugly, ugly world out there to some trolls on blogs.
But if my story helps reach one person in a positive light, then it's worth any backlash I receive.
http://theheirtoblair.com
The problem is that there are just too many forums and blogs that encourage bad behavior all in the interest of generating traffic. I am confident most of these women would never make these horrible comments to a person's face but they feel empowered and a rush to attack online since they get immediate feedback on their bad behavior. As a blogger, I have been called names that I couldn't believe from people that no absolutely nothing about me, my beliefs and my site. They simply jump on the bash bandwagon and get swept up in the flood of ugliness.
I write a New York based humor blog called The Mama Bird Diaries and I was just trashed this week by another female blogger who basically accused me of killing feminism. Her post was snarky, judgmental and cruel. At the end of her personal attack, she offered up an apology to me which is sort of like the grade school version of, "No offense but I hate you." Apology not accepted.
I wrote about the experience here: http://www.mamabirddiaries.com/the-mamabird-diaries/apparently-im-killing-feminism/
I watch the Today Show almost everyday. I am new to this "blogging" thing, and a single father (42 years young) who has raised two daughters solo. I have had full custody of my two girls and their mom unfortunately has had no visitation since shortly after our divorce which was over 11 years ago. My eldest is now 22 and has given me two wonderful grandchildren. I am still raising my 14 year old daughter and while watching today's Today Show about "Mommy Blogging" I started thinking, is there a place for Daddy's to blog? I'm sure I'm not the only one who faces the challenges of being a single parent raising a child of the opposite sex alone. I've focused all my attention on the raising my girls and have always put them first. Now that my daughter that is getting older I am more than ready to start dating. I just wonder how to juggle continuing to raise my daughter, work, and quite honestly how to start dating without my daughter feeling like I'm turning my focus away from her and toward another woman. It's just been her and I for over 6 years now and it would be nice to chat with others in the same situation. Can the Today Show give me any guidance in this area?
I understand your frustration - though I'm a single mom w/a daughter. I began dating a man when she was 4, in my opinion a little too young to give up mommy just yet. What a fiasco! I'm sure there are sites out there for single dads... you just have to find them. Easier said than done though, as single dads are a rare breed. Good luck!
It's easy to slam each other online, because you never see the other person or her reaction. But this mommy meanness is happening all the time, everywhere. Check out our blog on this topic and join in on the conversation! www.mymommymanners.com
Isn't the purpose of blogs to bash each other?
oh my goodness no. On my blog site, we're there to encourage each other. Be a shoulder to cry on. Help when you're faced with a bad day. Share advice on raising our kids. We are very kind and considerate of each other. And we're all different. Some spank, some don't. Some bottle feed, some breastfeed. Some are already potty training, some are not. We are there to simply be a friend when you need one during the long and sometimes frustrating days. I guess the difference in my mommy blog and other blogs is that we've been together so long, we all know each other as much as you know someone without meeting in person. We know about each others family history. We send Christmas cards each year. I could go on and on. We're like an online extended family. :)
My pet peeve is when women attack each other over the birth process. Women who have had c-sections, whether elective or not, can find themselves under attack in comment sections by women who have had natural births. It seems to be assumed in many cases that women who have c-sections are taking the easy way out, are vain or are unable to stand up for themselves. That's not true for most women who have had c-sections due to breech presentation and other medical complications. They did what they needed to do to have a healthy baby and maintain their own health. If they can find a way to make peace with it, why can't people hiding behind avatars seem to?