I am a man and I am saving up to do this via surrogacy. The down side of solo single parenting for fathers and their children are far out weighed by the risks and consequences of divorce.

Yes! I did and would do it again. I solo parented my first daughter to teenage years and decided to go it again. But I found my mate as I was pursing this goal. And now we have two daughters. Though if he had not come along I would still have my baby(ies)

I was disturbed by this piece, frankly. It seems as though the society of "me, me, me" is continuing to extend to a woman's "right" to have a child, no matter what. The women that have children without a father are being selfish; albeit they think they have good intentions, but this is not the case for the child. It is proven that children do much better in a two parent home, with one father and one mother. These woman are perpetuating the fraud the feminist view of "their" world. I am a mother, I'm 43 years old, and was a product of 70's selfish feminist thinking. Thank goodness I came out of my stupor and have realized that men have a much greater role in society than we have given them credit for for the past 40 years. I feel sorry for men these days, and this piece just proved how ignorant and selfish most women really are. I hope women will wake up one day, otherwise the continued degredation of society will continue to be on our hands.

Talk about being disturbed. Tallfriend's view disturbs me. I am 38 and currently pregnant as a single, choice mom and trust me, I am not a feminist that's all about me, me, me! I have l known since I was a young girl that I wanted to grow up and be a wife and mother, in that order. My relationships have not lead to such. It doesn't happen that way for all of us. I still hope to meet my mate someday. There is actually still time for that, but should I give up my dream of being a mother? Heck no! Now I will be the first to agree that not ALL single women are capable of being a good parent and ensuring that the child has a wonderful network of supporting, loving men and women in it's life. But I will also be the first to point out a child from a two parent household that has totally been dealt a bad hand. You can't generalize. You can't focus on the one-sided studies. Often these studies look at single moms that are single as a result of divorce or a lover that wasn't interested in having a child in the first place. You cannot compare that to someone that makes a conious decision to have a child as a single mom; someone who has thought through this and planned for the child. Me, me, me??? I think WANTING and choosing to have a child as a single person is quite selfless. Think of the changes and sacrafices I will make in order to be the best parent for this child. I am fortunate in that I have all the support imagineable. A huge family, wonderful friends, and wonderful bosses and coworkers that are doing all they can to make this decision and what lies ahead "easier" for me. I already feel as though my unborn child is truly blessed, and so am I.