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Subscribe to RSS“The clock was ticking and the boyfriends weren’t clicking.” It’s a quote from one of the moms profiled in the video clip below that rather tidily sums up why more and more women have decided to embark on motherhood on their own. Via artificial insemination and adoption, aspiring moms-to-be are deciding to move ahead with their plans to become parents without waiting to meet suitable mates. Despite both the challenges of single parenting and the threat of the stigma from portions of society that may be slow to accept such a choice, many women see single motherhood as their most viable option.
Parents, what are your thoughts on this phenomenon? What advice do you have for mothers who choose this path? Watch the video here and share your impressions in the comment section.
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"Who is my daddy?"
How do you answer that question when artificial means are used? What in God's name does this do to a child's psyche? Psychobabble all you want, the artificial route will be found to be harmful to these kids. Adopt, adopt, adopt if you want a child. Those who INSIST on a baby are already showing how selfish they can be.
I was a little disturbed by this story regarding single mothers that choose to be single mothers. I am a 38 year old man that grew up with a single mother and all I wanted for Christmas every year was a dad. Despite what your Clinical Psychologist suggests that your coach or your uncle will provide that support system is ridiculous. Those people have there own families and dont go home with you at night and tuck you in. I never went to a pro baseball game as a child and if my mother did'nt enroll me in big brothers big sisters program I may have never have fished or camped as a child. I disagree with this option and think that these women are being selfish , misleaded, and dont have direct knowledge of what its like to grow up and see all your friends with a dad and feeling some what inadaquate. It has been a life long challenge to overcome and I still wish I had a dad in my life. Thank god for big brothers/big sisters program. Although I have been firm on my stand I wish all of the women that make this choice the best of luck and take the kid, him or her to a ball game now and then.
Life isn't perfect , but to suggest that a single woman can't provide for, love and offer both female and male role models is wrong in my opinion. There are all types of family's in our modern world. The children of single moms by choice won't be alone. I recommend watching the documentary "PLAN B, Single Women Choosing Motherhood" to understand what these women do face in making this choice.
We as women often fault the men for responding to their primal needs first. How is a woman choosing to raise a child because her biological clock is ticking any different.
I am a 38 year old educated woman of color that had a son 13 years ago. Certainly back then it was still taboo especially because my parents were from Haiti. Thankfully I was educated and made a life for myself and my child. To say it wasn't easy is a severe understatement.
Women have burned more than their bras in this country and have become global trendsetters for women around the world. Such influence should be taken with more responsibility.
I've tried very hard not be a statistical result of my decision. So to now hear a story about women "wanting" to become single mothers purposefully baffles me. You cannot predict the health, temperment or personality of your child despite what the donor application says. Do you really want to take that chance because your clock is ringing so loud that it has deafend your sense of LOGIC.
Sincerely,
T. Louis