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Subscribe to RSSFed up with her bickering kids, a Salem, Mass., mom called upon the cops to arrest the oldest two, who are teens. “I want them both out of here,” she told police on Monday evening.
Granted, it’s an extreme move, but who among us has never, ever fantasized about doing it?
I’m not saying I’d ever actually act upon that fantasy, but I do feel for the woman. Maybe Monday was the final day of her children’s winter break, and she — and they — just couldn’t stand all that togetherness a minute longer.
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Would you ever call the cops on your kids?
According to the local paper, she’s a single mom with five kids. The two oldest are a girl, 16, and a boy, 15. The story gets a little murky: Were the kids fighting before she left the home to do errands, or did they start fighting while she was out?
The woman apparently did get part of her wish — her son will be summoned to court for punching his 8-year-old sister. However, the police also notified the state Department of Children and Families about what’s going on in that home.
Do you think this woman was out-of-line when she asked the cops to help her control her kids?
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Wat better then beating thr crap out them!
The only reason the human population continues to grow is because we have no idea what the teen years are going to be like. The sweet little baby turns into the two-year old, who's first two words are usually, 'mine' and 'no' - greed and rebellion. Then the teen years hit and BHAM!! Your little sweet child now can spin their head around and look at you with glowing red eyes. And if you have a daughter you have to wear garlic around your neck and carry a silver cross at least three days of the month. hahaha
Before you post anything about me being a horrible person - this post was said in jest - I love my kids - ------the law says I have to until they are legally able to be on their own. LOL Just kidding.
maga- too funny! Spoken like a Mom of teens.....
I too am in teenage hell.....and tween hell.....just keep repeating "I love my kids, I love my kids"...lol
I'm not sure I would have called the cops, but, then again, do whatchya gotta do...
Amen. I have all boys and they are 15, 12, and 10. I've threatened to call the police and may actually end up doing it. I love my kids, I love my kids, I love my kids. But GOOD GOD!
Angie - Totally understand! I've got a 16 year old girl (Lord, help me - at least that's what I say everyday!) and I've got a 12 year old boy and an 8 year old girl....
I'm in trouble for at least the next 10 years! And I've already got a head full of gray hair! LOL
At least God gave me a sense of humor! It's a "must have" when raising kids!
Have a great day.
Well I am a teenager & I read the article above...I think she was kind of silly for calling the cops..I mean she's the mom not the cops lol and she should just try to strike a little fear in her kids..All we want is someone to tell us "NO" in reality.
Way better then beating the crap out of them!
sorry
Sure is. Beating the crap out of them only gets the parent in jail.
I agree, Maga, but I felt teenagers were the reason some animals ate their young. I don't condone what she did, I just have a lot of questions. Why does she have 5 kids? If she can't handle them, why did she keep pumping them out? Continually having children is NOT a right, and it's a good idea to stop when you've had more than one, unless you are super mom. Sounds as if those children were not raised properly to begin with, and to throw in the towel and request help from the State? Ridiculous. Sounds to me as if she had no business having ANY children, much less 5 of them. Children are for life. PERIOD.
I don't think she made herself pregnant. Maybe she had no choice but to raise her own children. Widowed, divorced, etc... Until the facts are known don't pass the blame. And yes she maybe just spouting them out as well.
Continually having children IS a right, weather you think it's right or wrong. My Mother is the 11th of 12 kids...I'm the 2nd of 5. I only have one but tons of nephews and cousins and I LOVE my big family. I know alot of parents that have more than one and are great amazing parents. Who the hell are you to say she has no business having any? Judgemental freak.
Yeah, you don't know why she is single anyway. Husband could have just up and left and left her alone with all the children, it happens a lot. As to why she has five, perhaps it was a combined family? You don't know all the facts. I was raised in a combined family of 5 children and there was a lot of fighting even before the teenage years. Being a single parent only exacerbates the tension that occurs among siblings regardless of the reasons why the parent is single.
Wow. Having seven children myself (only five of which still live at home) I have to wonder who you are to tell me that I did not have EVERY right to have them? Jump down off of your pedal stool, please. Like those before me have stated .. you have no idea why she is a single parent so hold your judgement on that. I love all of my children and luckily I am an extremely patient person with a good sense of humor. However, were anything to happen to my husband where I was left raising my kids alone ... yeah I might get to a point where I felt I had no other options left to me than calling the cops on them. You don't know the full story. Perhaps their fighting has been constant and has escalated on more than one occasion to violence and she simply wanted to prevent that from happening again. You don't know and neither do we.
well..5 kids is alot to deal with..especially alone...maybe she snapped lol...i dunno i only have one right now and hes still a baby ...soo i guess to each their own lol
Sounds like she caused herself more problems than she started out with. My parents used the belt on me when I was being an a$$ when I was a kid, therefore, I grew up to be a pretty decent teen. I don't see too many parents spanking or using the belt these days. Time out is only a way to get the kids out of the parents hair but it certainly does not teach them anything. Hrmmm...... maybe some PREteen parenting could remedy this type of disrespect before it becomes a problem? Could be why kids were less likely to do unthinkable things when we were young vs. kids now. O and btw... there's no need for a kid to be on a computer till they are a teenager unless it's for homework. You can at least TRY to keep them innocent. I know you can't protect them forever, but some things that parents let their kids do just really isn't necessary. Who cares if their friends do it or have it! Maybe their friends' parents stink at parenting!? Start parenting in the beginning. Not when you start to see "signs" of disrespect and rebellion. Just sayin'.... It could really make a difference. Ok, I'm done... :)
I agree there aren't enough parents spanking their children...I have a 3 year old, and time out doesn't cut it! I am not saying beat your kids, but you need to make sure they know that you are the adult and what you say goes!
If I had call the police it would have been to pick up bodies,see I'm old school I raise mine kids hell w/time out chairs and u didn't have to worry abt 1 of them robbing you etc,1 is a policeman the other teach nursing.
Mine is 6, and going through a not listening/attitude phase. Pretty sure she's 6 going on 13! I sometimes fantasize about how effective it would be to have the police give her a talking to! ;) Even if it didn't work, it would still be worth the entertainment. Sick mom!
Many cops do enjoy talking to kids...they come after a PTA request at school..if they can squeeze the time...It is good PR in terms of the kids being able to look at police officers as peace protectors as well as monitors of unlawful behavior.
I have a teen and a preteen and I don't have to beat them like my mother did the five of us. Taking their video games, computer, cellphone, and access to the outside works perfectly fine. Don't get me wrong sometimes they have a slip of the tongue and get popped in the mouth, however they know that they better not think about putting their hands on one another they know they will be in a cast. (full body) Lol!!!!!!!!
Threats of bodily harm...full body cast ? popped in the mouth ? that is abuse.....it is not a positive environment. Hope your kids do not leave your house asap and never return. Fear is not the best reason for being good.
Oh jeez, clearly she was joking about the full body cast thing. She even added "Lol" on to the end. Please stop panicking. Also, a slap in the face is a good point-blank correction for mouthing off. I myself had quite a few (slow learner in the mouthing off department) and I came out as a productive, healthy adult. And you hardly even NOTICE the facial ticks! :D
Kick those kids out -- they will never change - bullies they are - the whole lot of them. Mom will never be ever to control 5 kids - Her house/home will be destroyed eventually---
If you are talking about psychotic behavior, they need to be evaluated by shrinks. They will not get better without help as they get dumped on society. We have killers out there who behaved that way as kids.
This all started with the broken family. No its not her fault or his fault its both of theirs and they both are to blame for their childrens actions. Raised right they wouldn't be acting like a bunch of brats. Got a couple rooms for them at our house straight in 30 days and you will never raised your voices again at them. So where is the missing father? Takes two parents to raise children, short of him being dead he should be there helping not being a weekend daddy coming to the rescue, telling wifey you can't handle them just like you couldn't handle them when we were married attitude. disrespectfully children of today. Animals thats all they are, Scared straight might help ?
My husband is a Police Officer and he deals with this ALL the time around here. Kids have become so disrespectful. Put the kabosh on the attitudes when they are little!! Cell phones, gaming devices and computers (like licenses) are not RIGHTS they are privileges. Luckily I dont have to call the entire PD, just daddy!!
Mom's don't do it!! When I was 17 my mom called the cops on me while I was arguing loudly with my 17 year old girlfriend at the time. This set into motion a chain of events that kept me tied up the system for decades! Sort of like Les Miserables, something small snowballed. Everytime I had the slightest issue in court, these "previous records" came up and it just helped to augment the situation each time, ONCE YOUR NAME IS IN THE SYSTEM YOU ARE BASICALLY FCKED FOR LIFE. SO DO NOT DO THIS TO YOUR KIDS, LEARN HOW TO HANDLE YOUR KIDS YOURSELF, LEARN HOW TO SOLVE YOUR OWN PROBLEMS INTERNALLY, BE SELF-POLICING.
Calling the cops on your kids is basically like selling them into slavery, because they may be screwed for life.
Sources: Experience
Well said and I am sorry you suffered that experience. You seem fine now...can you remember the reason why your mom called the cops ? was she afraid of you ? surely she needed help and calling the cops was likely her only safety....do you see what went wrong ? seems like there was more to that event you are willing to express. One incident should not have been such an issue. Are you still in trouble now ?
Obviously T Cibran, you did to heed the warning your Mother called the police on you. It sounds like she should have done it long before she did with you and your girl friend.
That said, a ONE time incident doesn't continue to come up UNLESS you continue to OFFEND. So it is your own fault for continuing to offend.
You were 17 years old not 8, not 12, not even 13, by the age of 17 you should have known better.
Parents do not listen to this continuing to offend poser, he has no clue on how to raise a child and is only complaining. He was not intelligent to stop or not get caught. If you need the police to control you teen do so.
"Parents do not listen to this continuing to offend poser, he has no clue on how to raise a child and is only complaining. He was not intelligent to stop or not get caught."
"Parents do not listen to..."
I sure as hell hope ANYONE raising a child is able to make their own decisions on how to parent their own child and do not need either sides telling them whom to listen to...
"He was not intelligent to stop or not get caught."
Or not get caught? Really? Advising parents to not listen to someone who was 'not intelligent' enough to 'not get caught'
I am sure everyone reading this has done something dumb as a teen. Not getting caught isn't always a matter of intelligence.
Also, you are conveying the idea that it is fine to break laws if you are not caught. If you are caught you are not intelligent. To be giving advice on parenting from this perspective would be extremely ignorant.
How about this...
If you are a parent, you should be able to make your own decisions. You should be able to take advice from whom You choose. Everyone is entitled to have differing opinions on the topic, that is fine. Don't impose your opinions on others.
T Cibran should have obviously stopped before the police were involved. But just because his mother Should have given him a warning before calling the police doesn't mean she did. His story didn't say. He is just giving an opinion from the teen's point of view (who went through a similar experience as the story)
am i missing something here or is it the parents job to discipline their own offspring? are parents that feeble minded that they have to bring in outside forces to get their kids in line, come on people your kids look up to you for guidance don't take the easy way out by letting the police handle every problem you have with the kids you brought into this world take responsibility and teach them yourself. it may be hard at times but in the end the pay off is worth it when your offspring become successful in whatever career they choose but they need your support along the way if you expect them to be independent adults, but then again im merely 25 years old with no children of my own. take what i say with a grain of salt if u wish or you could try to understand what im saying regardless of my childless status i wish you all the best of luck
Am 83....never married...no kids....had great parents....but mom was not up to the wear and tear of 3 kids....decided early to get a job that gave me chance to travel....have had a wonderful life...no regrets...lotsa fantastic experiences...only now, I see many friends who have great kids and grandkids and greatgks...I wish I had adopted some of those darling orphans...Will pray more for parents of teens.
Before we rant on the mother here, we really do not have all the info. We were not there. Reading about them yelling is not the same as being there. If she called the cops, I would give her the benefit of the doubt that things were way out of hand until I hear otherwise.
At least DSS is involved now. Maybe they will give her the assistance it sounds like she needs.
Parenting out of control. The problem started with her inability to control them.....the Police is not a guardian for delinquents, however, some kids are psychotic and dangerous and need help ( medical ). The Police may be able to get the ball rolling.....in what direction ? hard to tell.
Nobody has the right to intrude in to your home, there for, if i see a stranger getting in, after i call the police and if they say "protect your child" trust me i will do it. i work from home and i have a 11 month little "person" (this is the key word "person") and i love him with my life, so if some one interfere between our tranquility this person has to be prepare for the worst!!!!!!
I think you responded to the wrong article! :D