no. every person is not beautiful. and they don't have to be, either.

The problem here is, people will say "no, you are ugly" because they think its funny. Then upset tween/teens off themselves because they are hung up on what strangers think of them.

Sadly, there are probably fat middle aged perverted dudes looking at their videos and then trying to pick them up...

What a sad statement on what we teach our girls to value in themselves. What happened to being strong, and impowered, and gutsy, and smart???

What happened to deciding your own self worth, as opposed to basing it on outside feedback?

Sad.

If you want to boost your child's self-esteem then switch from superficially telling them how wonderful/beautiful/pretty they are to telling them specifics on what they do well or specific things about their looks that are beautiful. A girl will internalize it more if you tell her that her blue eyes or smile is pretty than if you just go yes dear your pretty. Same goes for boys. That's one reason why people respond so well to cheesy pick up lines. Even though we know they are cheesy that specific compliment points out a positive and boosts our core esteem. Same with telling someone how smart they are, make it specific and tell them what they are smart/do well in.

Like it or not most humans have unique features that are seen as imperfections by themselves or others. Blanket praise inflates esteem but it's more superficial so when another girl or boy points out something the child sees as an imperfection or insults them they have to reconcile that with but mommy and daddy think I'm so pretty. While the opinion of parents is important, the opinion of peers carries massive weight, which is why girls (and even adult men and women) ask peers to rate their photos.

Sarah -

Firstly, outside feedback is the only method we do have at gauging our worth in society. It's great to be told to develop our own sense of self-worth and everything, but the fact is we are social animals. Having somebody around you that tells you that you're pretty and smart and talented, well, they know you're just saying that because you love them. And they appreciate it, but it doesn't really count because of your bias.

We are social animals, and part of that is accepting that society gets to judge our worth based on certain aspects. I personally disagree with most of those aspects, but we are animals, and looks are an important part of our interactions with society; not just appearance, but gestures, non-verbal cues, etc. We modify our behavior based on the reactions of others, and that is what we call interaction. I appear differently to different people, based on how I act, what I say, and other things. I'm not going to come out and dress down my mother the same way I would somebody working for me who screwed up, for example.

For crying out loud, don't any of you remember what it was like to be a kid? The angst? The inability to express in words the melange of feelings and ideas going on in your head? The sensation of discovery of new things? The excitement, the horror, the social awkwardness, the bullies, the victims, the drama, the teachers, the students, the attempts at rigidity and the need to fight authority?

Granted, the internet is the LAST place that kids should be doing that kind of stuff (see Greater Internet @!$%#wad Theory for clarification). Close friends are better, generally. Some kids don't have many close friends, though, and turn to the internet.

My suggestion, put the kid's privacy settings to only allow their friends to see it, and no reposting. That way, when @!$%# goes down (and it will), it sticks to a small group, and the kid has a better chance of growing a thicker skin without resorting to suicide.

i wonder if any of these girls would date an ugly guy from their school. i say this because i sen this before. Back in high school there were girls who didn't feel that they were pretty enough but they wouldn't even talk to guys they found ugly. I mean all appearance wise, nothing with personality or whatever.

I'm not making a case for coddling children or blowing smoke up their behinds. I'm making a case for what society in general teaches females to value, and how we socialize them.

You won't ever see an adolescent boy online asking if people think he's handsome, will you?

Maybe boys have their own issues, but the article is about girls, and it sucks that we teach them to value their looks, and to value their looks through outside sources, no less.

You won't ever see an adolescent boy online asking if people think he's handsome, will you?

that's because if a boy does that, he will get ridiculed.

my point still stands firm.

Sarah, we don't teach them this. It is as instinctual as breathing. Their genes know that men value them more based on their appearance than anything else. Plain and simple. And yes, boys are insecure about their appearance as well...it's just that they'll be mocked by their peers for seeking affirmation.

U. G. L. Y. You ain't got no alibi.....you ugly. Dad used to ask me if my face hurt? I always answered "no". He always replied, "Well it's killin' me!"

You won't ever see an adolescent boy online asking if people think he's handsome, will you?

Hey Sarah,

Actually there have been websites around for years that did this for both boys and girls. I remember 10 years ago that Hot or Not was the popular one. Both genders would upload pictures to be judged and rated on a scale of 1 - 10. So this isn't new.

But what this really comes down to is one VERY important rule that parents need to teach their kids... The internet is full of a$$holes. No matter who you are, no matter what you look like, there is an a$$hole who will call you ugly, fat, wimpy, whatever. Going on the internet is like going up to your mortal enemy and asking their opinion of you. STAY AWAY.

That rule should be a requirement in any parenting manual.

As an entrepreneur the first thing I do when I receive a resume is check a persons linked-in and Facebook pages. If you have trashy, drunken, immature, insecure posts/pictures; I don't want you working for me.

I know many universities also troll facebook and do not want you attending their establishments either. These kids will end up working for fast food the rest of their lives. I don't understand why parents don't keep their teenagers off social networking sites or at least monitor them.

crazy! Don't complain to me when your kid ends up barely making a living.

US1776.

No, not everyone is beautiful. There are a lot of ugly people in the world. Now I am not really referring to just looks. People can be pretty but have a terrible personality that makes them a lot less attractive.

I've been told that I am good looking (I am a male btw), but in reality I quite ugly. Physically I am not that good looking (like 4.5 out of 10), plus I have such a lets just say less than good outlook on life and things in general have made me jaded and more of an ahole at times.

Now I have not watched any of these vids yet (I will tonight).

People constantly question themselves all the time. I'm 26 and I still question myself all the time. I did it a lot when I was a teenager and do this a lot as an adult.

I've been told I am handsome but I do not really believe that I am good looking.

Those girls should not be looking for validation from strangers. God makes everyone exactly the way they are for a purpose. Our value and worth comes from Him and not what others or our culture values de jour.

I've been told I am handsome but I do not really believe that I am good looking.

CoffeeParty,

I used to be like you (also a male)... questioned myself, thought I was ugly, blah blah blah. Then I heard the greatest quote of all time...

"When I get sad, I stop being sad and start being awesome instead. True Story."

It really is amazing what arrogance and a hint of narcissism will do for your outlook on life.

Actually UnitedStates1776, NO, not every person is beautiful. Also, just in case you were not aware, not every kid is a winner; everyone that plays doesn't get a trophy and (and I hope this doesn't offend your tender sensibilities) we are not all equal in all ways. Parents today coddle their kids by giving everyone on the "team" a trophy, celebrating every little thing like their kid just won an Olympic medal and in general, treating their precious gem like they can do no wrong. I have a news flash for you -- life isn't fair and we're not all beautiful. Some of us will be geniuses in our chosen field and some of us will dig ditches and hopefully the vast majority will fall someplace in the middle. Some will get breaks in life brought on by genetics and others will not. We all have gifts and it's up to the individual to ultimately find it within themselves to bring it to the forefront and make something of themselves.

There is a cause for this effect here people. The girls are asking a natural question since we do value pretty girls more than ugly ones. We say differently sometimes, but we really do not value ugly girls the same, nor do we think that personality triumphs over looks. So, these girls are right to be concerned and right to be sad, if they are ugly. The sad part is that it is not even their fault. It is ours for making such an environment that they grow up in. It twists both the ugly and the pretty into people they would not have to be if we did not pressure them so.

It is a shame, but what are we going to do about it? We cannot change society, but these girls are not directly affected by society, other than in the music and movies they see. It is the interactions with the many people they deal with that teaches them this, not a faceless nameless society. It is all our responsibilities to help them see that it is personality and other things that we value most.

Do not blame kids for learning the lessons that we teach them.

Sarah, I'm with you. I have a daughter and of course I tell her she's cute, but I also tell her she's smart, funny, creative, and caring. Those things are what makes her the great kid she is. And I tell my son the same thing.

Of course girls want to be "pretty" but going on Youtube is asking for a lot of trouble.

Society should not be shocked that out of hundreds of millions of people, some of them are insecure and childish. Especially if they are children.

And lets put the internet equivalent of a "loaded gun" within reach of all these kids, because surely a universally accessible service would be used appropriately by everyone in society.

Do the math people.

This is so sad. Mom and Dad aren't doing what they should be to help build this girl into a strong young woman. From the picture, she IS beautiful but she needs to hear it from the right people.

Very sad

If you have to ask you probably are. These girls do not suffer from anything but an abnormal desire to have others tell them they are beautiful. Just like the millions that take pictures of themselves and post them to Facebook just waiting for their "friends" to tell them they are beautiful. Sickening.

And this isn't something that is just teen girls - how is this different than Demi Moore, who starves herself to be thin, sending a half naked picture of herself over Twitter?

Where are the "parental controls" on these kids' computers...oh wait, they are probably using computers at school or their "smartphones", etc. to post this nonsense. Every parent should set controls that prohibit access to any of these "social" sites without the parental password that the parent changes daily.

No wonder we have all of this new electronic bullying that is now occurring. The youth of today have no understanding of what they are exposing themselves to with their "network" postings.

With most of them, other kids tell them they are ugly and every adult tells them they are beautiful. Where else can a kid get an HONEST answer concerning whether they are beautiful or ugly?

Where else can a kid get honest and useful advise on how to better themselves.

The main reason these girls post the videos is they are confused because everybody they talk to lies to them concerning their relative beauty.

yeah, you ugly,..go climb in a microwave...i mean really, this is a main story??? it's beginning to sound like a generation of poon tangers out there...

Technology is wonderful and/or horrible depending on who has it and how it is used. My daughter is 38, but if she were 8 or 14, I'm not sure I would permit her to use any technology she wanted, at least not without being monitored.

If you have to ask 'the internet', then yes, you are ugly. But, more important, you are really seriously stupid...............

And for telling somebody some stupid remark like that, you would probably look better if you pulled your pants down and walked backwards. IDIOT.

More than likely, it's mom and dad that have given the kid a complex to begin with.

Kallie, I am sure you have lost out on some extremely great talent. How a person lets of steam is no indicator of how well they work. Infact is more likely that you've hired some very secretive repressed people who will more likely blow up one day. If as a teen you never did anything remotely crazy, then I actually do feel sorry for you.

Parents can tell their kids how beautiful they are until the sun burns out. ( A lot of kids figure that is something you have to do because you are parents. I don't know how many times I've heard Parents don't count.) Many people probably even those who are now parents have felt the weight of wanting society to judge you. May it be, in school with popularity or worrying about the clothing you wear. Still, praising your kid is a very good thing for parents to keep doing. (Even though they say it doesn't matter it does as they are growing up.)

However self esteem is more the issue. You should make sure your child is doing something they are interested in and can have fun in. In other words kids shine best when they are doing something they feel they are good at. Which in turns boost their self-esteem.

I love the representative person of MSNBC: Sees a video of a girl asking, "Am I ugly?" and thinks "Oh, no self-esteem issue!"

Let me introduce you to the representative person of the Internet as a whole: Sees a video of a girl asking, "Am I ugly?" and thinks "Stop asking for attention here. It's not grade school."

Blame Hollywood, the media, and even schools to perpetuate a value system that helps selling movies, newspapers, magazines for entertainment purposes. It's true that 'beautiful people' have it easier in life, but beauty without talent is fairly useless. Unless you're modelling... and I hear the competition is fierce.

The news report said one of the comments called the child an "idiot" but what they showed was the name "idiot" was directed at another commentator, probably one who had insulted her.

Either way, the mother should realize this was a BAD idea. She shouldn't let her daughter do this bc 13 yr olds will dismiss all of the good comments and only focus on the comments of trolls.

One is only as pretty as one feels from the inside, and what other people think about you should never matter to you if you feel good about yourself within.

If you think you are pretty, then you are what you feel. No one else can make that judgement about you unless you want them to, and you shouldn't care much on what others think.

Beauty comes from within you.

Isn't this why fat guys post their junk on-line? If you can't see it, how you going to know what condition it's in. Much cheaper to just ask on-line than pay a doctor to tell you if you have a problem.

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I would just like to say that I have met women that are very good looking and beautiful on the outside but it was their attitude and personality on the inside that made them very very ugly.

Some of the most beautiful people I have met, who weren't so appealing to the eye, it was what's on the inside, their heart, their compassion for others, their attitude towards others that made them so attractive.

It's sad that girls are dejected and seek others to confirm their sex appeal. "Am I beautiful?", should not have to be uttered from someones mouth, male or female. something like this being asked ponders to question the social resposibilities of the parents or guardian of such children. granted, I understand that everyone can't keep a watchful eye on their child, but at least hang out with your child. Teach your child the rights and wrongs of life, what beauty should be and not whats on the television.

I read that many people here blame social media on this issue, and in a sense I do agree. Women are generally sexualized in near to everything you see nowadays. We subject girls and teens with this every year and its saddening, because many begin to believe thats the way it is. Many girls believe they should wear tiny skirts to school, or really tight clothes.

I was heading to my classes at a community college and I noticed a girl from an intermediate school(middle school) and she was wearing a short plaid clad skirt, followed with a small jean jacket with gothic leather boots. I thought to myself, why would any parent let their child walk around like that.

Even worse, once a semester local schools usually bring students from highschools/middle schools for talent shows and other career opportunities. When the children are leaving, their guidance councelors or teachers would escort the children to the bus. Unfortunately for me and my friends, we ran into a rude awakening.

One event, the college cafeteria was littered with students until the forementioned departure. This woman came into the lounge room and started joking with my friends, then me. We got along great and things started going extremely well. I asked her if she wanted to go get something to eat and she said sure. Upon exiting towards the lot, a man had charged at me and threatened to call the police. I was appauled and demanded why he would make a claim to call the police. The man said they were looking for this girl and that she was 16. I took one long look at this teen. She wore tight clothes, small shorts(lowrise I guess), makeup that made her look resonably older. She looked 23 to me, I'm sure I would have found out later, but I surely panicked and told the teacher to get her away from me. Sure I totally deserved that, and made sure never to talk to anyone around that time ever again, but that changed the way that I look for dates from that point on.

I see young girls wearing less clothes with each passing year, which makes me wonder how I'll behave should I have a daughter. I don't want my daughter to try to look pretty, I want her to be herself. I want my daughter to have fun and enjoy who she is, not to find joy in attempting to look beautiful. she will be beautiful, for she will be herself. Hopefully my parenting will help my children to get past the peer pressures and social stigmas to enjoy their life.

If you want to find out whether you're hot, posting such videos on Youtube is one of the worst ways to go about it. Some @!$%#'s bound to say you're ugly, just for kicks.

You see, if you don't happen to be pretty, there are usually ways to make yourself look better (without plastic surgery of course). Asking such questions on Youtube isn't likely to generate constructive comments, which are what you need.

Bottom line is that teens these days are doing incredibly stupid things.

Do you ladies find my man boobs attractive? Looking for some feedback on my beer belly

Let me put your minds at ease. Those girls that base themselves off their looks soon grow old, and develop crippling self esteem problems when the looks fade. There is no escaping grief in this life.

yes it's beyond sad that in 2012, there are ANY young girls who feel they amount to what they look like and that what they look like is up to someone else to judge. But "a few dozen" girls falling prey to this exercise in debasement does not a "trend" make ...let's not assume all young girls are this sadly in need of help with their insecurities.

Sarah -

I hear you on that.

There was a funny video making the rounds a few weeks ago about a young kid (3, I think) that had already figured out sexist marketing in a store and was throwing a fit about it. Everything for girls is pink, fluffy, soft, full of makeup, etc. Everything for boys is building, designing, strength-associated, mechanical, etc.

And we wonder why engineering is such a boy's club (it is. Period).

that is a conclusion few people ever come to in life and no teenager ever has that kind of insight.

As a teenager with self esteem issues, I never would have come to this conclusion on my own at that age. I was bullied constantly, and I was very insecure about my body. I was thin, didn't have any weight issues, and was relatively attractive (if I do say so myself).

Thankfully, I had very supportive close friends and family. When I hit my late teens, I realized that my worth doesn't come from others, it comes from me. But I had to mature to figure that out. And thankfully, the social aspect of the internet at the time I was a teenager was AOL chatrooms. So it wasn't as rampant as it is now.

At my age now, I have the confidence to deal with internet jerks, because they're everywhere. I don't think I'd be able to handle that type of criticism with the mentality I had at 15 or 16 years old.

Really, because I came to that conclusion at 16. I didn't stop focusing on myself. I just knew I would not and could not be who I wanted to be at 15 or 16. So I started to make an effort to improve myself so I could be who I wanted to be in my twenties and thirties and stopped caring about what the other kids though about me.

For the majority of teenage/preteen girls it is all about looks and I mean the total package from the face to their feet. It also has to do with weight and height. I have a grown daughter and three granddaughters ranging from 17 down to 9. My oldest granddaughter (prior to the insane blowup of minors living on the Internet and most especially YouTube) knows she is pretty, but doesn't really care. She is more concerned about her mind, her spirit, her personality and how she interacts with others. The two youngest are already becoming jaded and it is frightening.

Most, if not all, parents know their children. They are aware when a child begins displaying dramatic changes in their attitudes and behaviors. Some of these behaviors develop slowly. Others, it seems, appear overnight.

If you have a daughter/granddaughter who doesn't like to share her life with you because she believes you just "will not get it", you must be extra diligent and even downright sneaky (if required) to find out what's up.

My daughter once told me she thought for the longest time that I didn't love her because I told her I loved her at every opportunity. Of course, some of this attitude came from her friends whose parents didn't tell them as often. So, telling them you love them all the time can be a two-edged sword.

Be open, be honest and whatever you do -- don't share too much of your own teenage years especially if you have behaviors you don't want her to emulate.

But, mostly, I would immediately check her computer in the morning and at night. Failing that, I would remove it.

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

beauty is only skin deep...ugly is to the bone...plain bob 2012...

It have to say, during my teen years I was so full of myself nothing could bring me down. Then again I am not a girl and they do go through different problems. However, I had a lot of older friends and I notice -nothing attract women more than confidence.

Girls know that attracting guys looks put you into the positive factor. I would say though there is something wonderous about a girl who can enjoy herself and her time.

One thing I was told when I was 10 by a teenage friend of mine. Beautiful is actually common the reason why people find a person beautiful is they can recognize many different people in that person's face. However ugly is a standout meaning you cannot recognize, or their is only a small group that you can identify with that face. Sometimes common is boring as all.... Find the beaufy in abstract and you might find life is more interesting. The advice puzzled me at the time because we were in art school together I don't know how many abstract painting I sat infront of tearing my hair out because I could find the beauty in them. Then one day I did.

Not every child is gifted. Not every child is smart. And, not every child is beautiful. Some kids are rotten, snot-nosed, stupid, lying little pains in the butt.

Your brillance and wit are astounding, how have you managed without getting the crap beat out of you....oh wait, you don't leave your house and live in your Moms basement and eat Hotpoclkets and have no real alive friends, just names and pictures on the internet.....what a sad existence

Da Troof is a troll! Da Troof is a troll!

Couldn't have said it better myself Da Troof! And some people are just plain ugly and we all know there ain't no helping ugly.

Your brillance and wit are astounding, how have you managed without getting the crap beat out of you....oh wait, you don't leave your house and live in your Moms basement and eat Hotpoclkets and have no real alive friends, just names and pictures on the internet.....what a sad existence

It sounds like you are basically saying that Da Troof is "not beautiful"... thus proving his point that not every child is beautiful.

Sorry, had to point out the irony.

My mom says I'm cool!

"My mom says I'm cool!"

My mom says she had no children who survived childbirth. My brother and I are a bit confused as we are quite certain that w were born and are alive.

I am not a teen ager and I don't live in my parents' basement, but I like HotPockets.

I wondered that too. I always worried about the people who took it seriously, as it was degrading. Beauty comes from the whole person. A still picture tells little. The person you should ask that question to is yourself. The social network is a terrible place to ask beauty opinions, but I understand the curiosity of kids. I hope they do not take the answers too seriously, but I strongly suspect they will. Be careful what you ask for......

Don't encourage the nit-wit.

They still have the website.

Hotornot and Ratemybody were two of the first things girls made me aware of back when I got back into the dating game - years ago. And they're still there. The lure of anonymous [i.e. "honest" -- don't make me laugh] feedback is always there. I think in the beginning it had the potential to be a real ego booster, but it was a novelty. Now its just trolling ground, a cesspool you don't want to jump into and the folks who're just out to hurt of belittle someone probably are more numerous than folks who think its fun. Haven't seen it in years, but only the very young wouldn't consider it lame, I'd guess.

I believe the correct phrase is "I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you"

"I know you are but what am I?"

Sometimes this place is like a time machine. I think I just revisited the 3rd grade.

Infinity...!

Infinity + 1

Infinity X Infinity!

Look at what is shoved down these girls throats everyday! The thinner the better, designer this or that, the provocative shows on cable and the networks showing that the prettiest girls get the guys, etc. We are a nation of morans. Our television shows confirm this! Parents need to get and stay involved in their childrens lives and to help and support them to make the right choices.

I said especially girls not only girls

Because a lot of girls are insecure, neurotic idiots.

Girls tend to have a lot more insecurity about their bodies than boys do. I'm guessing your son never asks if this shirt makes him look fat, or if these pants make his butt look big.

Because this is how strippers are made.

Step 1) Lower self esteem/Daddy issues

Step 2) Love of money

"Because a lot of girls are insecure, neurotic idiots."

And they grow up to be insecure, neurotic women who need constant validation and trips to the beauty parlor, fur store, and jewelers. Women who are more high maintenance than a Ferrari need to be avoided.

It's obviously because you're mean! You Effin B!tch!

Honestly, I agree with you "mean girl." It is very sad that mostly this only gets reported if it is affecting women. Just the other day, I did see an article about anorexia in young males; but more often than not, any body image story is going to feature girls because it is more socially acceptable for them to externalize it. Anyone who says that guys aren't equally insecure needs to ask themselves just how much bodybuilding is actually helping those involved. All I saw when I was around bodybuilding was people that were so huge that they could not take care of themselves anymore (i.e. put their own pants on, or wipe after going to the bathroom because their muscles got in the way of their ability to reach correctly), that were basically doing it because they were addicted to feeling tougher and stronger than all of the other guys they were around. Body image problems are a horrible thing for both sexes, but with how much media there is telling people to look one way or another, it is sadly pretty much inescapable now.

there is a man out there that will find you beautiful. the same thing doesn't appeal to everyone, thank God. people used to rave about Fabio, but i thought he was ugly. people think angelina jolie is beautiful. i do not.

Really? Their lives will be destroyed? They'll become crack whores? And these mean people should be locked in jail? Dramatic much??

This is the idiotic equivalent of dressing provocatively for validation, or doing something stupid because your friends were doing it. These videos are a foolish attempt to gain attention, and someone (hopefully a parent) should warn these girls about the dangers of their actions. But there are many schools out there already teaching about internet safety and we hear all kinds of stories of things gone wrong on the news. My guess is that these kids have heard some of the warnings and choose to act stupid anyway. Hopefully they'll learn from those mistakes. But I don't think it necessarily means that their parents have failed or that their lives will be ruined by their desperate acts of narcisissm.

Don't you remember how stupid you were when you were a teenager??

with all due respect fitbrmom, if you read my post a little closer i used the word could, as in could be destroyed. iv experienced alot in my life. and one of those experiences was knowing a young woman whos dreams of being a professional ballet dancer came true. she practiced ballet for many years, starting out at a very young age and worked her way up to the top. unfortunately there was this one moment throughout the years that there was this one woman, a ballet teacher, who told her she would never make it as a professional dancer, and that she was fat. it only took this one action by some snob, that destroyed her, by the time she made it to the top, she couldnt perform anymore because her anorexia had made her so sick that she couldnt stand up without help from someone, they had to hospitalize her and feed her through a tube at times to save her. thats all i know about her as i only knew her for a short time. and lost touch with here, but that is a short short summery of what i know. this kind of thing happens all the time. and i know alot of other girls that have issues due to things happening during their younger years, although nost had issues with ther fathers. but like i said earlier a chance. and to me that chance is too much to take. and god yes i remember how stupid i was as a teenager, lol thanks for reminding me.take care.

You're a teenage aren't you? Totally sound like my teens and their friends. So harsh!

Well, we could all learn a thing or two from you--you know, since you're the perfect parent and all.

This is the idiotic equivalent of dressing provocatively for validation, or doing something stupid because your friends were doing it. And I'm guessing even YOUR precious angels stumbled like this occasionally. These videos are a foolish attempt to gain attention, and someone (hopefully a parent) should warn these girls about the dangers of their actions. But there are many schools out there already teaching about internet safety and we hear all kinds of stories of things gone wrong on the news. My guess is that these kids have heard some of the warnings and choose to act stupid anyway. Hopefully they'll learn from those mistakes. But I don't think it necessarily means that their parents have failed or that their lives will be ruined by their desperate acts of narcisissm.

Don't you remember how stupid you were when you were a teenager??

Glad my parents wasn't all up my bussiness like you were in your kids. You probably shortened there lives greatly by all the stress you caused from constant surveilance.

WOW! 1 response from someone who's probably a 'teen mom' that still has envy issues and another from just a 'wigger' teen. ('up in my buSSiness'--one 'S' by the way dipstick)

You go 'kids.' You always know what's best!

You expect a pre-teen to understand that?

They only need to understand that they are what we call a "Butterface". "Everything about her is really cute; butter face."

But you know, some people just never will and that's ok too. Most of us really are average, which is why there's such a term.

Laffs, that's just the thing! I absolutely AM averge and totally comfortable with that! But avaerge would've been a stone cold blessing when I was 13. I didnt honestly mean that we all blossom into models more that, often at least, skin clears, sometimes the texture of hair gets better or you learn to manage it better. Sometimes if the teen is mid-puberty, her figure evens out. I just meant that way too many girls assume that they will never get ANy level of control over how they look and this is rarely the case. :)

So what matters is finding the one man who is kind and thinks you are pretty...? How superficial is that?!?! Sounds like you need to grow up and seek some mental help there, doll.....

Idiot

Well said, Julie.

"what matter is finding that one man who is kind and who thinks you are pretty."

That is what he does for you. What do you provide him?

Gee, oh superficial dude.....they will see someone who does not dwell on the outside of a person, but the inside person. Did you just get dropped off of a manure truck???

Julie, if you think this is how to live life, you'll be unhappy every single day of your own life. This is not what matters in the real world. It's superficial and fishing for approval rather than searching for the strength that lies inside.

That way madness lies...and anorexia and bulimia and body dysphoria and many other problems. Never open that Pandora's Box, you are opening the gates of Hell. A girl might as well lie down on the internet and invite everyone to use her face for a doormat. It will happen.

A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. They're nice to have around and decorative, but what a woman needs is to be her own person first.

Eh, let's face it, it is nice when we get compliments from people on our physical attributes. I am not going to turn down compliments - whether they are based on my personality or my looks. Second, I am a firm believer that physical attractiveness is very closely tied with personality, meaning if a person has a horrible personality, it will definitely hurt her looks and vice versa.

Bottomline, it matters to me that my husband thinks and finds me physically attractive. But oddly enough, I am happy and not psychologically scarred...lol. However, if a random stranger thinks I am ugly, I don't give a rats azz 'cause he/she is not paying my bills.

Is this ridiculous or what??? Now kids are asking a machine if they are ugly or not??? Come on world! Wake up!! Where are the parents for these kids? Your going to allow the "Internet" of all places to establish how your child thinks of themselves???? Give me a break! Beauty is MORE then SKIN DEEP! Come on people..parents...wake up! Take 'responsibilty' and control over what your child see's....has parenting gone down the tubes??? You could have someone out there telling your child they are the ugliest person in the world...but what is even more scarry is the fact you could have some "sicko" out there telling your child how beautiful and wonderful your child is and then the next then you know some "sicko" has got your child. Let's face it...it's a known fact out there that you have all kinds of sick people out there....PROTECT YOUR KIDS! Take back your AUTHORITY AS A PARENT! (Whether they like it or not...that's why your called the "PARENT" and they are called the "KID" or "CHILD"!)

Underage girls (or boys) who feel the need to seek validation about their looks from total strangers on the internet are too at risk to be allowed to go online without direct parental supervision, period. Such behaviour shows a lack in self-esteem and maturity. They should also be immediately put into counseling to assess and treat any issues related to self-esteem, bullying, depression and thoughts of suicide.

When that child is 17 it is not considered appropriate to monitor all internet activity. If you are a control freak, well, so am I. But I recognize my limitations and I am doing my best to work within my legal limitations. You clearly have a younger child, so go for it. Blue Coat K9 is a great FREE parental control device.

Please check it out. After my 13 yr old stole my credit card to buy "VIRTUAL CLOTHES, DINNER, VACATIONS" for her avatars on IMVU I learned a BIG lesson. It cost me, after bank and paypal discounts 1000. Not fun.

Never let your child on the internet without looking over their shoulder or a GOOD parental control program.

Yeah, yeah, I know...not MY kid...LOL. I thought that, too.

Totally agreed. I was very surprised that the show never spent much time on what PARENTS are doing to allow this to happen!

but in your case your child wasnt in danger.......in your case your thieving child was the danger...............no one preyed on your child....your child obviously wasnt taught simple values like dont steal from their parents.......the reason you state for watching over their shoulder while on line wasnt to protect them from predators.... rather to assure your kid hadnt robbed you of your credit card..... your example doesnt apply here.............what cost you is the fact that your child was a thief..... by your own words

it is completely normal for a human being to ask those questions...the bad thing the thing that realy gets to me is that people are that evil to respond with remarks like that........... grow up america