Does bad parenting cause ADHD? It seems crazy to even ask the question, but some concerned doctors and parents say that’s exactly what a recent opinion piece in the New York Times suggested.

It started with an essay called “Ritalin Gone Wrong,” by L. Alan Sroufe, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Minnesota’s Institute of Child Development. He questions whether ADD and ADHD are over-diagnosed, and if we’re relying too heavily on drugs for kids. Fair enough. In 30 years, he points out, usage of attention-deficit drugs has increased twentyfold. Is it too much? Maybe.

But Sroufe raised hackles when he started theorizing that attention-deficit problems are caused not by inborn brain differences, but by bad parenting. He wrote:

Behavior problems in children have many possible sources. Among them are family stresses like domestic violence, lack of social support from friends or relatives, chaotic living situations, including frequent moves, and, especially, patterns of parental intrusiveness that involve stimulation for which the baby is not prepared. For example, a 6-month-old baby is playing, and the parent picks it up quickly from behind and plunges it in the bath. Or a 3-year-old is becoming frustrated in solving a problem, and a parent taunts or ridicules. Such practices excessively stimulate and also compromise the child’s developing capacity for self-regulation.

Putting children on drugs does nothing to change the conditions that derail their development in the first place.

So, you have a kid with ADHD, you’ve tried everything you can to help him, and now it’s your fault because you put him into the bath too quickly when he was a baby?

Ouch. Dr. Nancy Snyderman responded to the debate on TODAY as NBC’s chief medical editor – and also as the mom of a child with Attention Deficit Disorder.

“The maternal guilt of, ‘what did I eat wrong, was delivery too fast, what did I do wrong?’” Snyderman said. “There is a lot of self-doubt when you raise children that don’t fit into societal norms, when you have a child who can’t sit in circle time… that’s seen as bad behavior, but it means the brain wiring is different.”

It’s true that some children may be over-medicated or on ADHD drugs unnecessarily, Dr. Snyderman said, but many parents have seen medication work wonders for their children. The safety and side-effects of these drugs need to be studied long-term, she said, but “in the meantime, you want your kid to get through high school, be socially aware and go on to have a decent career.”

What do you think: Do you worry about attention deficit medicine being over-prescribed to kids? Or do you worry more about a backlash blaming parents for ADD?

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Your flights are booked, itinerary organized, and every few weeks you sneak a peek at those nearly impossible-to-get tickets to the  Olympics. Then you realize that your new baby, who wasn’t even conceived when you made your plans, needs its own ticket – a ticket that could be just as difficult to get as yours was, and that could cost another small fortune. Some parents were gobsmacked this week to learn that babes-in-arms would be required to have their own tickets for Olympic events.

After a public outcry from moms, dads and parents-to-be, Games organizers said in a statement on Tuesday that they may change their policy, and “will look at what we can do [for parents in this situation] when the remaining tickets go on sale in April.”

It was welcome news to many moms who say that they need to bring their babies to breast-feed, or because they have no other childcare options. Babies in a front-carrier or sling don't exactly take up more room or require their own seat (they can barely hold their heads up, let alone sit down,) although organizers have said the extra ticket is to ensure that Olympic venues don't exceed capacity.

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The Equality and Human rights Commission even told one complainant that she may have a case for “indirect sex discrimination,” the Guardian reported.

But should parents really be bringing a baby to the Olympics in the first place? Long security lines, crowded stadiums and the need to take public transport to many Olympic events are just some of the obstacles -- and germ fests -- that parents and their babies will face this summer.

Plus, London in July and August isn’t exactly like Beijing and Athens, homes of the last two Olympics. Summer in England can be downright chilly, never mind the rain. It's enough to persuade any parent to find a reliable sitter.

Would you take your baby to the Olympics? Tell us in the comments section below.

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If you want to predict whether a baby is going to have a weight problem, new research suggests, look at his or her dad.

Yes, for once dads get the blame for something.

Scientists used to think obese men were more likely to have obese sons, while obese women were more likely to have obese daughters, but studies are starting to disprove that.

A new Australian study, published in the current issue of the International Journal of Obesity, focused on 3,285 two-parent families in which only one parent was overweight or obese. The kids in the study were 8 or 9. Researchers found that heavy dads were more likely to have heavy sons and daughters, but heavy moms were no more likely than healthy-weight moms to have heavy children.

Link to study abstract in the International Journal of Obesity

Huh? Don’t moms generally spend more time with the kids and buy more of the groceries? So why would dad’s weight, not mom’s, be linked to whether kids have to shop in the plus-size department?

Lead author Emily Freeman says she’s not sure, and hopes to explore the question further. “Because our findings are counter-intuitive, we felt that it was very important to get the message out there straight away that dads have a big role in keeping their children healthy,” Freeman, a psychologist with the Fathers and Families Research Program at the University of Newcastle, said in an email.

One possible explanation: Dad as role model. “We have had lots of anecdotal reports about children looking to their dad to determine whether or not they have to eat the vegetables that mum has served them, or if they should be going outside to play in the park,” Freeman said.

In other words, dads should set a good example by eating lots of fruits and veggies and actually playing sports, rather than simply watching them on TV.

Who do you think has a bigger influence on kids' weight, mom or dad?

Health and parenting writer Rita Rubin lives with her husband and two daughters in Washington, D.C. She tries to set a healthy example by always eating all her broccoli.

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Birthday parties can lead to mama drama when some kids aren't invited.

Socially speaking, there are worse things for a young child than not being invited to a classmate’s birthday party. Enforced isolation due to the bubonic plague comes to mind. Yet, whether being excluded is a rite of passage or an unnecessary cruelty, it is still a polarizing issue in the mommy wars.

Which camp we side with reveals a lot about our own childhood memories.

I can still recall the punched-in-the-gut sensation when I found out that a girl who I believed to be a close friend did not invite me to her 10^th birthday party. After I learned that many of my classmates were included, I could barely drag myself to school.

So it’s not surprising that when my 5-year-old daughter has a party, we invite all the children in the class, not to mention most of our neighbors’ kids. Having a summer birthday makes it easier to have a crowd — think cake at the park — but perhaps our family does go overboard.

My daughter was fortunate to be invited to the two parties she knew about in kindergarten this year. Others, however, have not emerged from the first months of school unscathed.

Everyone was invited to the first party, but I knew there was trouble brewing when a mother told me about her daughter’s upcoming birthday and immediately lamented the size of her apartment.

Sorry, but we live in New York City and a lack of living space is a fact of life, not an excuse to break hearts.

The cafeteria scenes my daughter described in the days leading up to the party, as her friend discussed who was and was not invited, sounded like they were taken directly from “Mean Girls.”  There are only 14 kids in the class. Couldn’t the mother have invited all or none? Or at least invited all the girls?

As I mulled over these questions, I said to my daughter, maybe we shouldn’t go since everyone wasn’t invited; her response was to burst out crying. While she felt sorry for the kids who weren’t included and said everyone could come to her party, she wasn’t about to become a martyr for their present cause.

I asked her not to talk about it in school on Monday, but she came home with a drawing of the party she created for a “Weekend News” activity.

 “What did the other kids say about your picture?” I asked.

 “Well, some of them wanted to make presents for the birthday girl,” she answered, “because they couldn’t be there.”

It was proof, once again, that kids are resilient. After all, life is full of rejection, and kindergarten may be as good a time as any to start to accept that.

As one mom posted on urbanbaby.com:

“BTW, my child never was hurt by not being invited...Understood the simple concept that not everyone is invited to everything. I honestly, not being snarky, don't understand why this is such a hard thing for moms to understand.”

On an intellectual level of course we understand, but we also feel our children’s pain. Try explaining the “simple concept” to my friend’s son, who was not invited to a single party in nursery school—my friend chalks it up to her lack of socializing with the other moms. On Mondays, her then-3-year-old often heard children talk about the parties they went to over the weekend and witnessed parents delivering gifts they didn’t buy in time for the birthday.  Ouch!

This lack of discretion is one reason why so many elementary schools have policies prohibiting the distribution of invitations in school, unless all children in the class are included.

Some moms think these regulations have gone too far.

Another poster on urbanbaby.com believes her child can “spend what they like, invite who they like, have it where they like.”

“It's their party,” she wrote. “Prospective guests don't get to dictate the kind of birthday party a 5 y.o. has, neither does school culture or 'protocol'. Ridiculous.”

Is it? What is your policy for inviting children to birthday parties?

Kim Brown Reiner is a New York City mom, who tries not to speak to her five-year-old daughter or three-year-old son in the morning until she drinks coffee. In addition to freelance writing, she works as an educational consultant.

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Fed up with her bickering kids, a Salem, Mass., mom called upon the cops to arrest the oldest two, who are teens. “I want them both out of here,” she told police on Monday evening.

Granted, it’s an extreme move, but who among us has never, ever fantasized about doing it?

I’m not saying I’d ever actually act upon that fantasy, but I do feel for the woman. Maybe Monday was the final day of her children’s winter break, and she — and they — just couldn’t stand all that togetherness a minute longer.

According to the local paper, she’s a single mom with five kids. The two oldest are a girl, 16, and a boy, 15. The story gets a little murky: Were the kids fighting before she left the home to do errands, or did they start fighting while she was out?

The woman apparently did get part of her wish — her son will be summoned to court for punching his 8-year-old sister. However, the police also notified the state Department of Children and Families about what’s going on in that home.

Do you think this woman was out-of-line when she asked the cops to help her control her kids?

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Nursing moms descended on hundreds of Target stores around the country this week, but they weren't looking for after-Christmas deals. Nope, they came for a nurse-in: a public gathering of moms breast-feeding their babies, in support of a woman's right to nurse in public (known in some circles by the handy acronym, NIP).

Why was Target the target? Texas mom Michelle Hickman says she was hassled by several different Target employees last month when she tried to breast-feed her baby inside a Webster, Texas store. She says she was sitting in a quiet corner, using a blanket to cover up, but apparently that wasn't enough for the employees she encountered or the clueless customer service representative who allegedly told her on the phone that laws protecting women's right to breast-feed don't apply inside Target stores. (Newsflash: they do! 45 states have laws allowing women to breast-feed in public.) She complained on her Facebook page, her complaints picked up steam with the breast-feeding mom community, and a nurse-in was planned for Dec. 28. Moms from all over took part, including some TODAY Moms readers.

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The milk bar is open! Moms participate in a nurse-in at a Chicago-area Target.

"It was a great experience," Springfield, Va. mom Gwen Arredondo reported on our Facebook page. "Every employee I encountered was kind and gentle. I nursed my son as we returned some items and while checking out. The manager told our group that nursing mamas are welcome in her store and she encouraged the group." Later that day, for good measure, Arredondo said she nursed at Kohl's -- and had a good experience there, too.

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Alabama mom Hannah Ellis said she put on make-up and nice jewelry just to make sure she'd look respectable at her first ever nurse-in. Like Arredondo, she and her baby had a great experience. "I stood in front of Target's nursing bra display (OK, couldn't help it -- humor got the best of me), picked my son out of the cart and popped him neatly under my Hooter Hider," she wrote on the TODAY Moms Facebook page. "After feeding for a minute or so, I got more confident. I decided to walk past the dressing room...the employee working there was busy and didn't even notice me. I browsed through racks of clothing around the dressing room. Women shoppers browsed around me...no one said a thing or looked twice. Feeling encouraged, I decided to really put my Target to the test. I headed toward the front of the store and the main aisle in front of all the check out counters. I browsed displays, still nursing my son under my Hooter Hider. 'Good morning,' I said to a Target employee as I passed her, nursing. 'Good morning,' she replied. 'Have a great day!'"

Target executives, for their part, hopped on the public breast-feeding train. They issued a statement reiterating their support for moms who want to feed their babies while they shop. (They're no dummies -- more potential customers!)

"We continually educate our team members in stores across the country on store policies to ensure all guests have a great experience," Target wrote in a company statement. "Target has been in touch with the [Webster, Texas] store to ensure all team members are aware of our breastfeeding policy. Target is proud to support all mothers who breastfeed year-round."

But not everyone is down with NIP. On the TODAY Moms page a fierce debate raged after some commenters declared public breast-feeding to be "gross." (Real mature, guys!) But the issue isn't black-and-white. Some moms say they totally support breast-feeding, and think women should be allowed to nurse in public -- but they don't think a "nurse in" is the answer.

"To be honest I really don't care how you chose to feed your baby, that is your business not mine, but you make it my business when you and your buddies go do a sit-in," complained Monica La Fuente Ramirez. "Now I have to avoid the store because I don't want to see a bunch of women breast-feeding their babies all at once, please this is a store not a mommy play group."

As Nesie Spencer wrote, "Breastfeeding is natural. Yes that's fine. But I think making all this noise is a bit too much. I think there is only such a huge 'scandal' about it because people keep talking about it. It's like 'look at me, look at me.'"

Still other moms wondered why all the big fuss about a little baby nursing. "It's a shame that women are judging each other on here," said Hillary Prickett. "It's hard for me to believe people are offended. I see more boob on TV than I ever do [from breast-feeding moms] in public. Be discreet and everyone else get over it. Babies need to be fed. However and whenever is mom's choice and her right."

What do you think? Do you nurse in public, or support other women's right to do so? Would you ever go to a nurse-in?

NBC Chicago reports on the local Target nurse-in.

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Of all the internet memes that were hot in 2011, the one that most deserves to die next year is the "kids crying" meme. 

Yes, “funny” videos of kids crying have been all the rage on YouTube lately. Sounds cruel – and it kind of is.

Viewed independently, you can almost see why some of these parents thought this would be a cute moment to record for posterity. An adorable little girl weeps because the Vikings lost, again. A little boy falls to the floor and sobs because his Halloween candy is all gone.

But watch them one after the other, and a disturbing pattern emerges: Kids crying, and adults laughing. I’m all for funny kid videos and not taking parenting too seriously, but it’s starting to get creepy. Even Jimmy Kimmel seemed to realize he’d taken it a step too far when he asked viewers to tell their kids that they’d eaten all their Halloween candy, and tape the reaction. It did not go well.

“I guess I didn't expect so much crying,” Kimmel explained. Still, he showed the videos. And people laughed. Except for the kids, who are probably still wondering why their parents would mess with their heads like that.

Kimmel tested his followers -- er, viewers -- once again this month with his Christmas video challenge: Let your child open one gift early, but make it a really lousy gift. "Hilarity" at the expense of upset, crying children once again ensued.

I'll admit to a little hypocrisy here, as I do have a soft spot for "Scared of Santa" photos. But with photos, we can believe that the moment after the picture was snapped, mom or dad scooped the crying child up in their arms, comforted them, and then they all went to the playground. In a video, there's no such illusion. The kid keeps crying, and the camera keeps rolling. 

Why do we think it’s OK to laugh at kids’ emotions? Sure, the things that upset them may seem trivial to us. But football games and Halloween candy and lame presents aren’t trivial to them. And “punking” your kids puts your cheap laughs above their emotional security. Seems like a great way to teach kids to stifle their emotions – or better yet, never get excited about anything! That way, when someone pulls the rug out, your parents will have no embarrassing footage to post to YouTube.

So the next time your kid cries, do us all a favor -- put down the camcorder and be a parent.

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Parents do the darnedest things when it comes to tracking down that toy their kid just has to have for Christmas.

In the early 1980s, moms and dads camped out overnight in store parking lots in hopes of snaring one of those goofy-looking Cabbage Patch dolls. In 2008, an episode of “The Office” aptly captured the phenomenon when Dwight bought up all the Princess Unicorn dolls around Scranton and sold them at an enormous profit to desperate parents.

Our TODAY Moms/Parenting.com online survey of 6,000 moms found that 4 percent say they'll do whatever it takes to get that must-have holiday gift, whether paying a premium for it, driving all around town to find it, or even wrestling it away from someone else in the toy aisle!

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Krissy Lawton, of Haughton, La., can’t even remember what toy her daughter wanted so badly for Christmas 2009. She only knows she couldn’t find it anywhere and decided she wasn’t going to get caught shorthanded last Christmas.

“Last year, I’m like forget this,” says Lawton, 32, mother of Molly, 5, and Campbell, who’ll be 2 in February. “I’m going to Google what’s going to be the hottest toy and buy all the ones I can.”

That, according to her research, would be the “Sing-a-ma-jigs,” cute, plush Teletubbie-esque toys that sing and emit other sounds when their tummies are pressed.

December 2010, several weeks after she snared five or six Sing-a-ma-jigs — gotta think of the nieces, too — at her local Target, Time magazine named them the top toy of the year. But by then, Lawton says, “every store everywhere had bins and bins” of them.

After last year’s wasted effort, Lawton didn’t bother investigating this year’s hot toys. So when Molly started asking for a pink Fijit, Teletubbie-esque toys that talk when you squeeze them (do you detect a theme here?), Lawton thought, “no problem.” Besides, “her wish list changes every five minutes.”

Still, Molly kept talking about that pink Fijit, so after Lawton tucked her kids into bed on Thanksgiving, she made a late-night run to Walmart. You guessed it: After fighting through hordes of shoppers, Lawton found that the Fijits shelf was bare. That weekend, she checked another Walmart and Target. Ditto. Sure, she could have bought one on Amazon or eBay for $30 more than the suggested retail price of $50, but, she says, “I don’t think she’s going to play with it very long. That’s why I wasn’t going to pay the big bucks.”

She started bracing Molly for disappointment. “I heard from Jay, the Elf on the Shelf (interestingly, another toy that, like Cabbage Patch dolls, kids can “adopt”), that Santa’s elves didn’t make enough Fijits this year,” Lawton told her kindergartener.

Still, she kept trying. She checked ToysRUs and Toy Fair, a local store. No luck. She did find Sage, the green Fijit, at Kmart. Lawton figured a green Fijit was better than no Fijit, so she bought it. Then Lawton started playing with Sage and reading Fijit reviews. “Apparently, nobody likes the green one. It goes into this weird alien voice.”

So she nearly dropped her son when, on a trip to Books-a-Million, she spied two pink Serafina Fijits as well as a purple Willa and one Sage. She snapped up the Serafinas and the Willa and plans to return Sage to Kmart.

As for baby brother Campbell’s wish list? “All he asked Santa for was a train and a truck,” Lawton says. “He’s very inexpensive.”

Rita Rubin, a contributing writer for msnbc.com and today.com, once bought a Cabbage Patch Kid the week before Christmas, and survived. She lives in suburban Washington, D.C., with her husband and two daughters.

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The baby names are out! BabyCenter revealed on TODAY its most popular names for 2011 – a list eagerly anticipated each year by name nerds and parents. (If you are both, like me, even better!)

This year it’s all about two letters: A and N. For girls, the top five names all end with –a: Sophia, Emma, Isabella, Olivia and Ava. On the boys’ side, the –n ending ruled five of the top eight: Aiden, Jackson, Mason, Jayden and Ethan. 

Top Baby Names of 2011

Girls                                       Boys

Sophia                                    Aiden
Emma                                    Jackson
Isabella                                  Mason  
Olivia                                     Liam  
Ava                                        Jacob
Lily                                        Jayden
Chloe                                    Ethan
Madison                               Noah

BabyCenter Editor-in-Chief Linda Murray pointed to celebrity influence on expectant parents, noting that Mason – the name of Kourtney Kardashian’s two-year-old son – rose eight spots in the rankings. Of course, it helps that he has the trendy –n ending. His K-named relatives did not fare as well, with Kourtney, Khloe, Kylie and Kristin all dropping in popularity.

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On the girl’s side, the name Pippa soared 45 percent in popularity, though it’s still a rare choice. Again, there’s that –a ending!

Baby name expert Laura Wattenberg at BabyNameWizard.com spotted the -n trend back in 2007 (see her post here), and it certainly seems to be going strong. You can see some fascinating graphical representations of the popularity of different name endings, from -tie (think Hattie, Lottie) in the 1900s to the -any/anies (Stephanie, Tiffany) of the 1980s, in her post here. 

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Of course, the TODAY crew really wanted to know how their own names did in the ranking. Amazingly, the name Matt Lauer rose 98 percent! Just kidding. But Matt did increase a respectable 24 percent in popularity in the BabyCenter rankings. Savannah rose 17 percent, Natalie is up 14 percent, Al rose by 3 percent; and poor Ann is down 4 percent. (If only she was Anna, she’d fit the trend!) No one at BabyCenter named their child Kathie Lee this year, but there were two Hodas -- up from none the year before, so go Hoda-woman!

Jonathan Dube

Babies... cute however you name 'em.

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BabyCenter’s data comes from the names of 300,000 babies whose births were registered on the website in 2011. Just as interesting is their Baby Names Survey, which looks into how moms and dads choose their child’s name. Among their findings: 2 out of 5 moms share their baby’s name on a social networking site within minutes or hours of giving birth. (That probably includes the eager sharers who tweet the baby’s name along with the first ultrasound pictures!)

Of course, name lists mean different things to different parents. Some will be happy to see their kids’ name in the top ten, while others aim for monikers that will never crack the top 100. How did you choose your child’s name? Are you happy with how popular it is now? Would you choose differently if you had to do it over again?

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Reality check: 80 percent of all college freshman say they've never had a conversation with their parents about managing their money. What's more, almost one in four of these same teens say it's just fine to blow as much as $500 without checking in with Mom and Pop.

(I'd love to have their allowance, but that's another issue).

The findings are hardly a proud parenting moment. The truth is too many kids are flunking financial literacy and one big reason may be that we've failed to teach our children essential "money-smart lessons."

If you're concerned about your kids' future spending habits, there's no better time to start your money talk than these next few weeks. the "official" holiday shopping mania has begun. Newspapers will be filled with coupons and penny savers. Television ads for holidays "deals" will air non-stop. Teen magazines will feature those supposed holiday "must have" items. Lots of pressure to spend, sure, but this is also the perfect opportunity to let your kids know that money doesn't come easy. It's the time to set clear expectations and limits for your family's spending during the holidays. Here are a few ways to use the holiday season to boost kids' money smarts.

Monitor TV Consumption
Television commercials are relentless in trying to get kids to buy, buy, buy. Research shows that media affects our children's money attitudes and increases materialism. During the next few weeks retailers will be pushing products and urging your kids to spend. Beware of those advertisements! Do take time to explain to your kids the real intention of those advertisers.

Be a  role model
Take your child shopping with you. I dare ya! Show him how you compare prices. Explain to her how you look for bargains. Use those outings as teaching moments to instill good shopping habits.

Teach bargain hunting
If your kids are purchasing gifts for siblings (or even you!) get them involved in checking out penny saver ads. Have them clip coupons. Tune your kids into the bargains at those dollar stores. Hit the outlet malls, and don’t overlook thrift stores and even garage sales. And tell them to watch for sales! Grandma will never know if her present was ten dollars less because Johnny waited to buy until sales day.

Cut impulsive shopping
Set a household rule that your child must write down any pricey intended purchase, and then postpone buying it for at least twenty-four hours. It's a great way to teach kids to delay gratification and to think before spending. (Profound concept, eh?) A younger kid can draw it  on her "wish list." The wait time could vary from an hour or day to a week or month depending on the child's age and maturity.  If your kid loses interest before the time is up, even she will agree that she didn't really want that item after all.

Teach “Wants vs. Needs”
This is the “Gotta Have It NOW Generation,” so a big step in helping today’s kids become smart spenders is teaching the difference between “want it…” versus “need it.” Get your kids to assess what they already have that is still in good shape and can be recycled; what’s missing and then what's really needed is on the holiday request list.  

One-store shopping boosts consumer skills
Your kids planning to do their own holiday shopping? If so, this is a great way to help teach them consumer skills. Consider choosing just one store that has the best bargains in town to take the kids for their shopping this year. By announcing, “We’re shopping only at this store,” the kids are forced to look for the best bargains in one place and you won’t find yourself driving to multiple stores (and bringing back multiple items). Save money and gas. This is also the time for them to bring their coupons and shopping lists.

Consider after-holidays gift buying
Seriously! I know families who realize the best deals are December 26. Those parents set a rule: "You receive a few items under the tree but wait for that pricier item the day after the holidays." The kids learn to appreciate the value of a good deal, the parents are grateful to save a ton of money, and the whole family enjoys that day-after shopping outing for everyone's special-- and better-priced -- gift.

All the best on your shopping!  

Dr. Michele Borba is a TODAY contributor and author of "The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries." Follow her on twitter @micheleborba.

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