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    18
    Jan
    2012
    5:52pm, EST

    'Modern Family' tot's potty mouth no big deal, experts say

    By Stephanie Pappas
    LiveScience

    Bleeped-out swearing may be okay for adults on TV, but what about kids? The ABC show "Modern Family" is about to find out by airing an episode this week about a foul-mouthed 2-year-old.

    The show's theme already has critics at the anti-indecency Parents Television Council grumbling, but researchers who study cursing find that believe it or not, 2 years is about the age when kids really start to use "adult" language.

    "Yes, 2-year-olds say f---," said Timothy Jay, a psychologist who studies psycholinguistics and obscenities at the Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts. "Preschoolers are pretty well-versed in the lexicon, and by 11 to 12, we are looking at adult swearing patterns."

    The obscenity colloquially known as the "f-bomb" will drop from toddler Lily's mouth on tonight's episode of "Modern Family." The storyline centers around Lily's parents, Cam and Mitchell, who are trying to clean up their daughter's language before she appears as a flower girl at an upcoming wedding. (The obscenity will be bleeped.)

    While the director of communications and public education at the Parents Television Council told FoxNews that the storyline is "in poor taste," it may hit close to home for many parents today. [10 Tips for Raising Happy Kids]

    "Kids say swear words as soon as they talk," Jay told LiveScience. "We have 1- and 2-year-olds who say 'f---' and 's---' in our sample."

    Jay and his colleagues have a dataset stretching back into the 1970s of words that schoolteachers, day care workers and other adults who work with children report hearing. Kids mimic words early on and pick up quickly on which words are "bad," even if they don't know the exact definitions of those words, Jay said. 

    In fact, studies suggest that swearing is firmly embedded in the brain. Swearing is a form of "formulaic language," said Diana Van Lancker Sidtis, a professor of communicative sciences and disorders at New York University. These are expressions such as "You bet!" that frequently appear in conversation, and kids learn them as they're learning how to piece together sentences.

    Not only does swearing start early, it's hard to dislodge. Stroke victims and people withbrain injuries often remember how to swear even when other words elude them, according to a 1999 review by Van Lancker Sidtis in the journal Brain Research Reviews.

    The emotional component of swear words may be what makes them stick, according to the review. Because these emotional words are processed differently in the brain, they may remain when other speech patterns are ravaged.

    Swearing also makes it easier to bear pain, according to a 2009 study in which volunteers submerged their hands in a tub of ice water, a common laboratory method for inducing pain. Some were told to repeat a swear word of their choice as they submerged their hands, while others were told to repeat a boring, nonobscene adjective.

    The volunteers who were swearing a blue streak kept their hands submerged longer than the other participants, suggesting the profanity helped them cope with pain. It's possible that swearing increases aggression and thus pain tolerance, study researcher Richard Stephens of Keele University told LiveScience at the time.

    Swearing also serves a purpose of expressing emotion more deeply, succinctly and cathartically than any other type of speech, Jay said. But this positive side of swearing gets little attention, he said.

    "A lot of people don't realize that swearing represents an evolutionary leap, in that it allows us to be verbally aggressive without being physically aggressive," Jay said. [10 Most Destructive Human Behaviors]

    The positive aspects of profanity aside, parents may wince at a 3-year-old swearing like a sailor — especially because children don't fully understand the social nuances of when and where swearing gets a pass until they are teens, according to Jay.

    Choosing to have TV toddler Lily say the f-word, bleeped or not, is likely to elicit the most discomfort possible for viewers, at least according to a January 2011 paper published in the journal Mass Communication and Society. That research surveyed 500 college students and found that sexually suggestive words were rated as the most offensive, with excretory language coming in second and religious blasphemy bringing up the rear. The students also reported that swear words are most offensive on broadcast television, which would include ABC, the channel that hosts "Modern Family."

    Broadcast television is currently under fire, with an ongoing Supreme Court case determining whether the Federal Communications Commission breaks the First Amendment by penalizing broadcasters for brief nudity and fleeting expletives. A previous Supreme Court case, FCC v. Pacifica in 1978, cited children's exposure to television as a reason to uphold indecency laws.

    But it's not "Modern Family" or even famously profanity-laced, bleep-free shows like HBO's "The Sopranos" or "Deadwood" that teach kids to swear, Jay said. Those lessons come from closer to home.

    "Television really has nothing to do with it," Jay said. "Nothing to do with it. We don't learn how to swear from television — nobody does. We learn how to swear from our siblings, from our parents, from the backyard."

    "Little kids are like language vacuum cleaners," he added.

    Related: 

    • Fight, Fight, Fight: The History of Human Aggression
    • 11 Facts Every Parent Should Know About Their Baby's Brain
    • 10 Facts Every Parent Should Know about Their Teen's Brain

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    145 comments, including:

    My toddlers don't swear. They never hear me swear and I'm working on getting my husband to watch his language much more. My at almost 3 1/2 and almost 2 my older kids definitely do not swear.

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  • 13
    Dec
    2011
    12:11pm, EST

    Tebowing toddlers strike a pose

    By Kavita Varma-White

    Are you ready for some toddlers Tebowing?

    The “Tebowing” craze that’s taking over the nation is defined by Tebowing.com blogger Jared Kleinstein (who coined it) as “to get down on a knee and start praying, even if everyone else around you is doing something completely different.” The pose’s namesake is Denver Broncos quarterback Tim Tebow, who does the pose before a game, after he scores a touchdown, when his team gets a first-down, or in praise of any other God-blessed moment of the game.

    Related: TODAY's Professionals debate the Tebow craze

    Here’s what it looks like done by the man, himself.

    Getty Images

    Tim Tebow of the Denver Broncos kneels in prayer before a game.

    As Tebow’s somewhat mythic performance this season continues (he’s led his team to 6 straight wins after being criticized for not being good enough to play in the NFL), Tebowing continues to gain steam. Kleinstein’s blog, which he started in October and has had approximately 13 million page views, features people of all ages from all over the world. There’s people Tebowing on football fields, at the Liberty Bell and at the White House. There’s people Tebowing at the Great Wall of China and at the Pyramids in Egypt. There’s even a doctor in an OR Tebowing after saving a patient’s life.  

    And then there are Toddlers Tebowing.

    Tebowing.com

    In pajamas, like this cutie above. With Santa.  In front of the Washington Monument. At the bowling alley and beach. While hiking:

    Tebowing.com

    There are inspiring pictures of kids battling sickness yet showing their strength by Tebowing. Nathan, below,  has mitochondrial disease. His stuffed puppy, "Tebow," accompanies him to all of his treatments.

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    This sweet boy has Spinal Muscular Atrophy. He has difficulty standing, but it doesn't keep him from Tebowing:

    Tebowing.com

    And of course there’s an ultrasound photo of a baby Tebowing in utero:

    Tebowing.com

    Kleinstein (who is now also selling Tebowing t-shirts on the website) told the Wall Street Journal that the Toddlers section of the site took him by surprise.

    I knew we’d influence plenty of kids in their teens, 20s, 30s and 40s. I had no idea we’d get the toddler community. I’m really happy they got involved.

    So are we, because the pictures are pretty darn cute.  You can see more Tebowing Toddlers pictures here.

    More great content from TODAY Moms:

    Read the full results of our 'Spoiled by the Holidays' survey
    Expert advice on raising grateful kids
    Parents share their kids' worst spoiled-brat moments

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    3 comments, including:

    Posing for prayer...what a lesson for the youngsters. The difference between praying and "Tebowing" is when doing the latter, you intentionally draw attention to yourself. What a "craze" for all of society to follow???

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  • 11
    Oct
    2011
    4:29pm, EDT

    Ready to play? 91 percent of kids are gamers

    Winda Benedetti

    My son Oz is one of the 91 percent of kids between the ages of two and 17 who are gamers.

    By Winda Benedetti

    While the average age of today's video game player is 37 years old (no really), new research shows that the youngest generation is as game savvy as they get.

    According to a new report from market research company The NPD Group, 91 percent of kids in the U.S. between the ages of two and 17 are gamers.

    The NPD Group also points out that, while the population growth of kids in that age range since 2009 increased 1.54 percent in the U.S., the gaming population of that age group has grown a whopping 12.68 percent.

    And the survey of more than 4,000 young people found that the fastest growth has been among the toddler set — children ages two to five. The NPD researchers say the number of those youngest gamers has increased by 17 percent when compared to 2009.

    The other segments driving this growth: girls and teens ages 15 to17.

    So what's turning all these kiddies into gamers? Smartphones and tablets have played a large part in it, according to the NPD.

    Since 2009, gaming on mobile devices such as smartphones and tablets among kids has increased by 8 percent to 38 percent, while gaming on traditional portable gaming devices (think Nintendo DS and PlayStation PSP) grew from 38 percent to 45 percent.

    NPD researchers collected the data via an online survey of 4,136 people age two to 17. They say that "in cases where surrogate reporting was used, mothers were asked to bring the child to the computer to answer survey questions, either with or without assistance."

    While this news may be met with fear and concern from parents who don't play video games, as a gamer parent myself let me offer this bit of reassurance: Games can be a fantastic way to spend quality time with your children.

    Yes, setting limits regarding what kind of games they play and for how long they play them is important, but so is finding games that you can play together. In our household, you're never too old and (almost) never too young to play video games, and playing together has created some great bonding moments and memories.

    Meanwhile, with all the puzzle-oriented and thought-provoking titles being developed these days, I've found that gaming has been a fun way to encourage critical thinking skills in my own mini-gamer. ("Where's My Water" is my son's new favorite iPhone/iPad puzzler to play with his parents.)

    But no matter what kind of game machine or gadget your child has access to, there are plenty of games and apps that are both appropriate for youngsters and enjoyable for parents. With that in mind, here are a few resources to help you jump into gaming with your offspring:

    • Want to know which video games are appropriate for your child's age? The ESRB explains the ratings system here.
    • Have a young child and a smartphone/tablet in the house? Check here, here and here for some games and apps that will entertain and perhaps even educate them.
    • Have an Xbox and Kinect in the house? Try these games. Also, Fruit Ninja Kinect is a must have for the whole family. And, keep your eyes open for "Sesame Street: Once Upon A Monster," which just launched today.
    • Speaking of Sesame Street, visit their website here for some fun and educational games for toddlers.  
    • For the PlayStation 3 owning set, "EyePet" is a great option for the littlest gamers.
    • And, of course, there are plenty of kid-friendly options for devices like the Nintendo DS, 3DS and Wii.

    For more game news, check out:

    • How iPhone apps saved our family vacation
    • Sesame Street to get the Kinect treatment
    • How young is too young for video games?
    • Gamers angry, ecstatic over 'Mass Effect 3' multiplayer details
    • 'FarmVille: The Movie' might happen ... no really

    Winda Benedetti writes about games for msnbc.com. You can follow her tweets about games and other things here on Twitter or join her in the stream here on Google+. And be sure to check out the In-Game Facebook page here.

    5 comments, including:

    I'm 37. It's funny, when I was a kid my parents and all my friends parents wouldnt touch video games. Now, that all those same people are in thier 50s-70s, they play video games all the time.

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  • 13
    Dec
    2010
    11:55am, EST

    Are toddlers too young for sports?

    There’s a growing trend among parents to indoctrinate their children into sports at an early age, often as young as 18 months. While some argue that an early start can only boost their development, some experts suggest that too much instruction can hamper toddlers’ creativity and imagination.  For some parents, sports training is perceived as a means of developing skills, while still others consider such programs a possible investment in a future career.

    Parents, where do you stand? Do you think it’s wise to get your child started with sports at an early age? Have you enrolled any of your young children in sports programs? Should sports be a priority at this young age? Watch the video and share your thoughts in the comment section.

    For all the excitement around introducing sports to toddlers, there is also concern that so much instruction at such an early age could backfire. NBC's Rehema Ellis reports.

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    11 comments, including:

    I think 18months/2yrs of age, is way to young! Ihave a 23month old now and couldnt imagine putting her in a "sport". My 12yr old started dance when she was 31/2 and I thought that was plenty early.

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  • 23
    Nov
    2010
    4:31pm, EST

    'Bleep my kids ruined' creator discusses children and chaos

    By Rebecca Dube

    When it comes to wreaking havoc, children are artists.

    Give a toddler an unattended lipstick, a white couch and a few moments with your back turned, and you’ve got a little Picasso on your hands.

    The web site “$h*! My Kids Ruined” is an impressive and hilarious gallery of disasters perpetrated by children, from painting the dog blue to buttering the lamp to magic-marker redecorating. The blog inspired a book, published Tuesday, and author Julie Haas Brophy took time to answer a few questions from TODAY Moms.

    What inspired the blog?

    Broadly speaking, the blog is inspired by my life with two hilarious and very active boys (now ages 3 and 4).  More specifically, in early March, my then-2-year-old son spilled a can of black paint that I'd inadvertently left out and it destroyed our dining room rug. Already in the habit of posting funny or dramatic photos on Facebook, I snapped a quick picture with my camera phone and uploaded it. The response was immediate and huge - friends were amused, horrified, sympathetic. I knew it had struck a chord.

    What’s your absolute favorite SMKR photo, and why?

    There are dozens of photos I love, but perhaps my favorite image on the whole site is actually a label!  I love the Pelican Company deeply for this!
    (Note: The label warns, “The above guarantee does not cover sharkbite, bear attack or children under 5.”)

    Going through all these photos, have you learned any life lessons about kids and parenting?

    Through the blog I've received confirmation that even the most attentive parents blow it from time to time, and disasters happen in every home (some homes more than others). I've learned that sharing and laughing about these sorts of mishaps and life changes is both therapeutic and fun.  Our Facebook community is very active and a great place to vent and laugh.

    Your turn: Have your kids ruined anything in spectacular fashion lately? Share and sympathize in the comments.

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    19 comments, including:

    My 2 yr old son was playing with his 3 yr old friend when she decided to shampoo his hair with Desitin. Then they proceded to finger paint the carpets and louvered doors. This was done quietly and quickly while we were a room away. Since Desitin is waterproof it was impossible to clean up.

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  • 26
    Jan
    2010
    8:22pm, EST

    Ever have a cringe-worthy incident in a museum?

    A grown woman lost her balance and fell onto Picasso's "The Actor" at the Metropolitan Museum of Art last week. Have you ever endured a similarly embarrassing moment, either as a clumsy adult yourself or as a parent touring a museum with small, antsy children?

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    1 comment, including:

    my wife let our then 3 year old daughter loose (accidently) in a Chuck Close exhibition at the MOMA in NY.

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